The Deacon Couple -And their Jounrey

June 10, 2017 Ordination & Deacon Couple

On Saturday morning, June 10^th Jay along with eighteen of his classmates were ordained Permanent Deacons for the Archdiocese of Los Angeles and he has been assigned to Holy Family Parish, South Pasadena. The ordination Mass can be viewed at this link http://www.olacathedral.org/live/ .

The past week of Dcn. Jay & Candy’s life has been amazing. From the rehearsal at the Cathedral and the dinner that followed at the hotel, to the day of ordination on Saturday and the Masses of Thanksgiving and the blessings that followed, the time was that of many blessings. We thank the community of Holy Family who made it all possible. (Below you can read all about Jay and Candy’s Journey)

A DEACON COUPLE

With the bulletin cover last weekend many people wanted to know what a Deacon Couple is. Deacon Jay & Candy will do their best to explain it.

The phrase “Deacon Couple” is used by the Archdiocese to describe a married couple in which the husband has been ordained a Permanent Deacon. Here is why Deacon Couple to Dcn. Jay & Candy is fitting:

Over the past five years of formation, they both have attended all of the classes, done the reading assignments, and turned in the homework assignments. They both completed the bereavement training through Catholic Cemeteries and are certified lectors for the Archdiocese. They both are trained in how to conduct funeral Vigils, Memorial Services outside of Mass, and Gravesides. Both served as presider during morning and evening Liturgy of the Hours, both discerning the Scripture Readings and preparing reflections on how the reading stirred their spirits, the Holy Spirit bringing the reading to light, inspiring them to share the events in their life and how the readings brought the word of God to inspire and call both to action. Together they have prepared presentations on various faith related topics, prayer services as well as practicums for Baptisms, Sunday Celebrations Absent a Priest, Weddings, and Deacon at the Altar.

While it is true that only Jay was ordained and can perform Baptisms and witness a Wedding, they both will be present and serve. The ministry of a Deacon Couple is that of service. Service together. After ordination, some wives elect not to take an active role in the Church with their husbands (usually due to small children at home, work or other commitments and obligations), this is not true for Deacon Jay & Candy. They had made vows, during their celebration of matrimony, to each other 36 years prior to Deacon Jay making promises to the Archbishop. They will continue to serve the community of Holy Family and the Archdiocese of Los Angeles as a couple. Where one is present, both are present.

And our journey as a Deacon Couple begins…

Today was our first day back at the Cathedral since ordination. We were here to support those being ordained as Transitional Deacons (TDs). Some of the Permanent Deacons (PDs) present, including Deacon Jay, assisted as ministers of the cup for communion. The Mass was led by Bishop Joseph Brennan.

We were informed that this was the first time that the PDs were the ones who congratulated the TDs. It was a wonderful experience! The PDs processed in prior to the start of the Mass. Candy & Deacon Jay processed in together.

Yes, there were differences in the ordination.

Under their albs, TDs wear clerics (i.e. a roman collar) instead of street clothes. They promise to say the complete Liturgy of the Hours instead of just morning and evening prayer. They vow to be obedient to their Ordinary (who could be their Pastor, Rector or Bishop) while PDs take a vow to be obedient to the Archbishop and his successors.

The TDs are not married and take a vow of celibacy while PDs may be married prior to ordination but cannot remarry if their wife passes away after ordination.

After ordination, the TDs do not do first blessings as the PDs do. They pray with those who come to congratulate them. First blessings will occur after they are ordained a priest which will be next June. They both have a first Mass and a celebration afterwards.

PDs return to work on the Monday after ordination (unless they are retired or take a vacation day). TDs return to seminary to continue their studies.

The functions of a TD and a PD are the same. Once you are ordained a Deacon, you are always a Deacon. Even though those ordained on Saturday will become Priests next year, they will still be Deacons.

Our last class was held on June 3^rd at St. Louis of France in La Puente and completed our five years of Diaconate formation.(Please click here to read all of our experiences of the five-year bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

During this class we evaluated the entire year. What went well with the class as well as possible improvements. Topics included our practicums, our last retreat, time management and others. Each couple met privately Deacon Memo, our facilitator to receive his comments about each of us and possible areas for improvement. Our formation, prior to ordination was declared complete.

There will be ongoing formation after ordination. We will meet for three hours, once a quarter over the next three years.

After the completion of our last formation class, we didn’t feel how we thought we would. It seemed very anti-climactic. We were trying to figure out what had happened? What did we miss?

The answer came on Sunday. With blessings from the community, congratulations, and promises of prayers, it all became clear. For the answer was not about us and completing five years of formation. The answer is the community we will be serving as a Deacon Couple. We are members of the wonderful community of Holy Family in South Pasadena. The focus now turns from formation to the real work, that of our community, those who are homeless, the sick and homebound, those who grieve, those who are incarcerated, and those who have no voice, to help those who struggle. The real work is to bring the light of the Savior to those who dwell on the margins, to encourage the community to be an active participant in the good works of Jesus by working as a united front.

There is nothing we can not accomplish when we work together.

Thank you, members of Holy Family Church, for lifting up our spirits, for your gracious and heart filled support, prayers and enthusiasm. This journey would not have been possible without the support and prayers, each prayer has given us strength, and every kind word had lifted our spirits and fortified our resolution. We continue to pray for vocations and that the Holy Spirit will continue to grace our community with the spirit of service, to call others to think and discern about the Permanent Diaconate, to open hearts, minds and spirits to the possibilities.

Our journey as a Deacon Couple starts this Saturday with ordination of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class.

Please remember those in the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Diaconate class in your prayers we approach Ordination.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Every Mass has something in common, while the readings might be different, the homily as well, the music and musicians change, there is one common thread, the prayers of the faithful, also called Universal Prayer.

These prayers call our community to action, to remind those present of the needs of our universal church. These prayers remind all to pray for our Holy Father, Francis, for the peoples of the world, all who are created by our loving God, for our community of faith, those who have been effected by natural disasters and conflict. those who are sick and those that have died.

Over the past several months Deacon Jay and Candy have presented these special intentions to the people of Holy Family Church. This is part of the work that a Deacon Couple is called to do – make the community aware of the needs of our world. As children of God and disciples of Jesus, the community is called upon at each Mass to go forth and make our world a better place; to reach out to those on the margins- those who suffer, those who grieve, those who are home bound and sick, those who are hungry. The Prayers of the Faithful is this calling. After each intention, we are all called upon to ask God to Hear our Prayers, lifting our voices as one, joining together as one to make our voices heard by all present that we all are united to helps those in need and to pray for needs of our communities, our world and all of God’s creation. Our Parish is a most generous and compassionate community, answering the pleas of all, we are called to hear God’s voice, to answer this call with compassion and grace, to truly be the hands and feet of our beloved savior Jesus.

As part of the Liturgy of the Word, the Homily is given to challenge those present, presenting insight to the word of God, as these words are freely given to us from a loving and merciful creator. Prayers of the Faithful represent the challenges of life, a call from God that we all are required to act upon, to pray for those in need, to become the hands and feet of Jesus, to step out of our comfort zone and do the good works of Jesus, to be true disciples of Jesus.

There will be ongoing formation after ordination. We will meet for three hours, once a quarter over the next three years.

After the completion of our last formation class, we didn’t feel how we thought we would. It seemed very anti-climactic. We were trying to figure out what had happened? What did we miss?

There is nothing we can not accomplish when we work together.

Our journey as a Deacon Couple starts this Saturday with ordination of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class.

Please remember those in the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Diaconate class in your prayers we approach Ordination.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Yes, there were differences in the ordination.

The TDs are not married and take a vow of celibacy while PDs may be married prior to ordination but cannot remarry if their wife passes away after ordination.

PDs return to work on the Monday after ordination (unless they are retired or take a vacation day). TDs return to seminary to continue their studies.

The functions of a TD and a PD are the same. Once you are ordained a Deacon, you are always a Deacon. Even though those ordained on Saturday will become Priests next year, they will still be Deacons.

April 27^th through May 3rd we continued our diaconate journey… Below is a summary of our retreat. We greatly appreciate your prayers. Please know that you were in our prayers as well. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

On April 27, 2017 we met at the Mary & Joseph retreat center prior to ordination. Our next class will be May 6^th at Alemany High School. There are only four formation classes prior to ordination.

The retreat center is in Palos Verdes and our first night there provided this for a view.

A retreat is required prior to ordination, and this was ours. This was also where we had our first retreat as an aspirant (year 1) class.

Here was the daily schedule:

8:10a Morning Prayer

8:30a Breakfast

9:30a First Session

10:30a – 11:30a Time for prayer and reflection

11:30a Mass

12:30p Lunch

1:30p – 4:00p Time to walk the grounds and area and reflect

5:10p Evening Prayer

5:30p Dinner

7:00p – Time for discussion with two nights including Eucharistic Adoration.

The Retreat Center is located right next to St. John Fisher Catholic Church. Their new Church was under construction when we were last here. Here is what the interior looks like now:

The grounds of the center are wonderful and provide many chances to see God in nature. Here is what Jay saw:

The retreat was led by Fr. Jim Clark, who gave part of the Parish Mission at Holy Family just a few months ago.

The five days of this retreat was spent in prayer, interaction and fellowship. There was laughter and tears. If we had to describe the most memorable part of the retreat, it would have to be at the last Mass where all of the wives were invited into the sanctuary and then prayed over by the priests and then each of those who would be ordained in June.

On Wednesday morning, Jay, along with his male classmates signed five of the forms required prior to ordination, two of which had to be signed while his hand was on a bible. Candy also signed a form that gave her permission for Jay to be ordained on June 10^th.

Here is a picture of most of the Elizabeth Ann Seton Class. Two couples had to head home right away due to child care issues.

As of May 3rd there are 37 days until ordination.

Please remember those in the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Diaconate class in your prayers we enter into our last month of formation.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Candy and Jay Krueger

Please remember our class in your prayers as we attend our preordination retreat at the Mary & Joseph Retreat Center Thursday, April 27^th through May 3^rd. Diaconate Journey…The Deacon at Mass – Holy Family Church (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

April 22, 2017 we continue our diaconate journey… we met at St. Louis of France for our last all group day. On Thursday, April 27, we begin our week long retreat at the Mary & Joseph retreat center prior to ordination. Our next class will be May 6^th at Alemany High School.

Today was our last all group day. All classes met today and the year one class received their class name. They are now known as the Mother Cabrini class. In the afternoon each class met with their facilitators for next year. Currently there are 88 Candidates in formation within the Archdiocese of Los Angeles. There are over 400 active Deacons within the Archdiocese. The St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Formation Class met with Deacon Shane Cuda, the Director of Deacons in Ministry for the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

One of the areas discussed was what requirements are needed to be done after ordination in order for our “facilities” (the ability to be an active deacon within the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

Virtus training (i.e. Safeguard the Children) must always be kept current.
A minimum of 20 hours of continuing education on an annual basis.
One weekend retreat annually.
You must be assigned to a Parish by the Archbishop or his delegate.
For the first three years after ordination, attend three hour training sessions on a quarterly basis.

As a Deacon couple, we are encouraged to attend the celebration of the Feast of St. Lawrence during which Deacons recommit their pledge to the Archbishop, attend the memorial service in November during which all Deacons and their spouses who have passes away are named and remembered, and the Christmas celebration. It was also suggested that the local deanery meetings be attended. We have been attending Deanery meetings for the past three years and were invited this year to attend the other Diaconate events.

As of April 22^nd there are 48 days until ordination. Please remember all of us in the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Diaconate class in your prayers we enter into our last months of formation.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Candy and Jay Krueger

April 9, 2017 we continue our diaconate journey…

Today Jay did his “Deacon at the Altar” practicum with Candy assisting. He was also the presider for a classmates’ “Deacon at the Altar” practicum. On Sunday, April 10^th, Jay was an Acolyte with Fr. Marlon at 6:30a Mass. One of our classmates also did their practicum for Sunday Celebration without A Priest for Palm Sunday. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

It was a strange feeling, to say the least, for Jay to practice being a Deacon at the Altar and assisting in the role as a presider on Saturday and then be an Acolyte on Sunday.

The class received the formal announcements and RSVP as well as tickets from the Archdiocese. Discussion on the day of Ordination, seating assignments, those who will participate as Deacon at the Altar and Deacon of the Word were selected. The finalization of which will be read, the first reading will be proclaimed in Spanish, the psalms will be proclaimed in English, the second reading will be proclaimed in Samoan, and the Gospel will be proclaimed in English. We also discussed the week long retreat in preparing for Ordination at the end of April, which will be held at Mary and Joseph Retreat Center in Palos Verdes.

It continues to be a blessing as people come up to us after Mass and say how they look forward to having a Deacon Couple in our parish.

As of April 9th there are 62 days until ordination.

Please remember those in the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Diaconate class in your prayers we enter into our last few months of formation.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

On March 25, 2017 we met at Alemany High School. We will be at Alemany High School for our next class on the 9^th of April. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

Today we reviewed all of the items that a Deacon can do during Mass. The reason for this is that it will comprise our last practicum as part of our formation process. The focus of this practicum is to perform all possible duties including the use of incense. It will be a rehearsal for our Mass of Thanksgiving and will include the Gospel for June 11^th and a chance to practice the homily each candidate will be providing. Jay is one of the three whose practicum will occur on April 9^th.

Here are all the items that a Deacon can perform during a Mass (This information is from the United States Conference of Bishops “The Deacon at Mass”. The numbers in parenthesis reference the General Instruction for the Roman Missal (GIRM).) :

Introductory Rites

Vested and carrying the Book of the Gospels slightly elevated, the deacon precedes the priest on the way to the altar or else walks at the priest’s side if the Book of the Gospels is already enshrined on the altar (172).
Upon arriving at the altar, if he is carrying the Book of the Gospels, the deacon omits the reverence and goes up to the altar. After placing the Book of the Gospels on it, along with the priest, he venerates the altar with a kiss.
However, if he is not carrying the Book of the Gospels, he customarily makes a profound bow to the altar with the priest alone, and then with him venerates the altar with a kiss (no. 274). (If, however, the tabernacle is located in the sanctuary, all the ministers genuflect to it only when they first approach the altar and when they leave the sanctuary, but not during the celebration of Mass itself.)
Finally, if incense is used, he assists the priest in putting some in the censer and incensing the cross and the altar (no. 173). After the incensation, the deacon goes to the chair with the priest, sits next to him, and assists him as required (no. 174).

Liturgy of the Word

If incense is used, the deacon assists the priest when he puts incense in the censer during the singing of the Alleluia or other chant.
Then he makes a profound bow before the priest and asks for the blessing, saying in a low voice: “Your blessing, Father.” The priest blesses him: “May the Lord be in your heart….” The deacon signs himself with the sign of the cross and responds: Amen.
Then he takes the Book of the Gospels which was fittingly laid on the altar and, with a bow to the altar, processes to the ambo, slightly elevating the book, with the censer bearer preceding him, while the censer is smoking, and with ministers holding lighted candles.
There he greets the people, saying, with his hands joined: “The Lord be with you,” and then, ” A reading from the Holy Gospel…” signing the book with his thumb and afterwards, himself on his forehead, mouth and breast. He incenses the book and proclaims the Gospel reading.
After the reading, he acclaims without raising the Book of the Gospels: “The Gospel of the Lord,” to which all respond: “Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.” Then he venerates the book with a kiss and the deacon says inaudibly: “Through the words of the Gospel may our sins be wiped away.” He then returns the book to the priest or places it in another suitable place.
When the deacon is assisting a Bishop, he may carry the book to him to be kissed. In more solemn celebrations, as circumstances allow, the Bishop may impart a blessing to the people with the Book of the Gospels. Then the deacon carries the Book of the Gospels to the side table or another dignified and appropriate place (no. 175).
If there is no other qualified reader present, then the deacon may deliver the other readings as well (no. 176). However, every effort should be made to insure the presence of lectors for the celebration of the Eucharistic liturgy.
After the priest introduces the Universal Prayer, the deacon announces the intentions from the ambo or another suitable place (no. 177). He remains at the ambo while the priest concludes the Universal Prayer with a prayer.
At the conclusion of this prayer, the deacon begins the preparation of the altar.

Liturgy of the Eucharist

After the Universal Prayer, while the priest remains at the chair, the deacon prepares the altar, assisted by the acolyte(s), but the care of the sacred vessels belongs to the deacon. He assists the priest in receiving the people’s gifts in a suitable place.
Next, he hands the priest the paten with the bread to be consecrated, pours wine and a little water into the chalice saying inaudibly: “By the mystery of this water and wine…,” then passes the chalice to the priest. He may also make this preparation of the chalice at the side table.
If incense is used, the deacon assists the priest with the incensation of the gifts, the cross and the altar; afterward he, or the acolyte, incenses the priest and the people (no. 178).
During the Eucharistic Prayer, the deacon stands near but slightly behind the priest, so that when needed he may assist the priest with the chalice or the Roman Missal.
As a general rule, from the epiclesis until the elevation of the chalice the deacon remains kneeling. If there are several deacons present, one of them goes to place incense in the censer for the consecration and then incenses at the elevation of the host and the chalice (no. 179).
At the final doxology of the Eucharistic Prayer, the deacon stands next to the priest, and after the priest (or Bishop) hands him the chalice, he elevates the chalice as the priest raises the paten with the Eucharistic bread, until the people have responded with the acclamation Amen (no. 180).
After the priest has said the prayer for peace and the greeting “The peace of the Lord be with you always” and the people have made the response “And with your spirit,” the deacon may invite all to exchange the sign of peace, saying, with hands joined and facing the people: “Let us offer each other the sign of peace.” He himself receives the sign of peace from the priest and may offer it to the other ministers near him (no. 181).
After the priest’s communion, the deacon receives under both kinds from the priest himself and then assists the priest in giving communion to the people. But if communion is given under both kinds, the deacon ministers the chalice.
When the distribution is completed, the deacon immediately and reverently consumes at the altar all of the Blood of Christ which remains; he may be assisted, if needs dictate, by other deacons and priests (no. 182) or, in their absence, by extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion (Norms for the Distribution and Reception of Holy Communion under Both Kinds in the Dioceses of the United States of America, no. 37).
After communion, the deacon returns to the altar with the priest and collects any remaining fragments. He then takes the chalice and other vessels to the side table, where he cleanses them and arranges them in the usual way; the priest returns to the chair. But it is permissible to leave the vessels to be cleansed, suitably covered and at a side table on a corporal, immediately after Mass following the dismissal of the people (no. 183).

Concluding Rites

Following the Prayer after Communion, if there are any brief announcements, the deacon may make them, unless the priest prefers to do so himself (no. 184).
If a more solemn formula for the blessing is used, or even a prayer over the people, the deacon says: “Bow down for the blessing.”
After the priest’s blessing, the deacon, with hands joined and facing the people, dismisses them, saying: “Go forth, the Mass is ended” or using one of the other formulas of the Roman Missal (no. 185).
Along with the priest, the deacon venerates the altar with a kiss, makes a profound bow, and leaves in the manner prescribed for the entrance procession (no. 186).

If there two Deacons at Mass, one would be the Deacon of the Word and the other the Deacon at the Altar. For the practicum, Jay will be performing both functions.

February 18, 2017 we continue our diaconate journey…at Saint Anne Church and Shrine in Santa Monica. Today we had a guest speaker, Msgr. Craig Cox who spoke on Canon Law and Canonical Services. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

In the morning, Msgr. Craig discussed the most recent Cannon Code that was published in 1983. As part of the discussion was the “Rights and

Obligations pertaining to all the “Christian Faithful”, the “Lay Christian Faithful”, “Specifically to Clerics”, “Specified Ecclesiastical Offices” and “The Right of Church Authority to regulate and Exercise of Rights””.

In the afternoon we discussed Marriage and nullity and where in Canon Law the various aspects of nullity can be found. Msgr. Craig answered questions from the group and presented a few ideas on books which would be helpful to members of the community concerning Canon Law and certain situations that they might have questions.

The last area discussed was Canon Law as it related to the Diaconate. The “National. Directory for the Formation, Ministry and Life of Permanent Deacons in the U. S” sections 74 – 103. The link provided gives you access to the entire document and it is an excellent resource for information on the Diaconate.

In the afternoon, we discussed our ordination and retreat. As of February 18^th there are 111 days till ordination.

Candy and Jay Krueger

On January 21, 2017 we met at Saint Anne Church and Shrine in Santa Monica where Deacon Brian & Sherry Clements spoke to us on Addiction & Recovery, Developing and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries in Ministry and Suggestions for Developing a Balanced Self-Care Program. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

Regarding addictions & recovery, Deacon Brian and Sherry discussed the importance of being aware of the different types of addictions that people can might, available Austin chronic relapse facilities and the various 12 step programs that exist to help those who suffer with addictions as well as those who live, work, and active in the lives of those who are addicted. We also learned about Al-Anon. It is a program that has been set up for family members and friends of addicts. If you know someone who has an addiction and are not sure what to do, Al-Anon is a good place to start. Most 12 step programs have a “no charge” policy, sobriety is the goal.

The next area that Deacon Brian and Sherry talked about were the various ways of maintaining healthy boundaries in ministry. This is especially true not only in the areas of safeguarding the children and vulnerable adults, but in all interactions with members of the parish.

Lastly, they discussed a balanced self-care program. They discussed the need to continue ongoing relationship with each couple. There is the need for not only to pray and grow spiritually together, but also to take time away together. There is a need for vacations. To take time away and recharge, being present for one another, support one another.

We completed our final interview this week along with five other classmates. Interviews will continue through the end of the month. We appreciated all your prayers and encouragement. We were asked not to discuss the content of the interview with our classmates, the formation team want to see the genuine couple with no outside influences or pre-conceived ideas of the interview.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

January 7, 2017 we continue our diaconate journey… today, Deacon Ryan Adams went over the responsibilities of being deacon at the Altar and deacon of the Word. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

The deacon of the Word would carry the Book of the Gospels in the entrance procession, proclaim the Gospel, and if a deacon was to provide a homily, it would be here, he also reads the Prayers of the Faithful. During the Mass he would sit at the presider’s right.

The deacon of the Altar would enter on the presider’s right during the entrance procession. He may lead the “Lord have Mercy”. It is his responsibility to prepare the altar to receive the gifts, assist the presider to accept the gifts, and then prepare the gifts for consecration which would include adding water to the wine and then pouring it into the chalice and handing it to the presider. He also has two speaking functions. After the Lord’s Prayer, it is deacon who says, “Let us offer each other a sign of peace”. At the end of the Mass, it is this same deacon who dismisses the people by saying, “The Mass is ended, go forth to serve the Lord and each other.” During Mass, he would sit at the presider’s left.

If there is only one deacon, he would then take on both roles as deacon of the Word and deacon of the Altar and would be sitting at the presider’s right.

This is one of two remaining practicums that Jay has to complete. The other is the witnessing of the ceremony of matrimony.

During class on Saturday, one of our classmates, Mike Flores, received a call that his mother had passed away suddenly. Please keep Mike and his family in your prayers.

On January 17th we will have our final interview with the formation team. It involves going over information that we have learned over the past five years, proclaiming a Gospel and giving a homily, discussion about various moral issues and the blessing a person and the blessing an object. It takes between two and two and a half hours. Please remember us in your prayers as we prepare for this interview.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

There is an expression between couples, “I would marry you all over again!” That is exactly what happened in our last class. Two of our classmates had their Wedding practicum and they both asked the same couple (Lita & Masselino) to be the bride & groom. In less than an hour, they were married twice! Candy & Jay were asked to be the best man & maid of honor for one of the practicums.

A new marriage practicum published by the USCCB made available in November of 2016 have a few changes in the ceremony and the sacrament of matrimony can be witnessed by a Deacon.

As part of our last year of formation, we have three practicums: Sunday Celebration Absent a Priest, Wedding, and Deacon at the Altar.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Our project was to help serve a Christmas lunch to families with Special Needs members. After the families arrived, signed in and had their picture taken with Santa, we greeted the families and escorted them into the hall where cookies, ice cream, popcorn, hot chocolate and coffee was served.

There were games, a petting zoo, a fire truck, an ambulance and a police car that those present could tour and/or interact. There were also Christmas songs sung by a choir.

Those who were present with special needs varied in age from 3 to over 60 years. The families were not just from St. Margaret Mary parish but from other surrounding parishes and the community was also invited to attend.

.Candy and Jay escorted a number of families. They were shown the games and other outside activities prior to being brought inside for food and music. After the families were settled in, Jay kept an eye on Anthony for his mother. Anthony was in his mid-30’s and his mother had difficulty walking. Jay would check on him from time to time to ensure that he was doing OK and then report back to his mother.

We all helped prepare the lunch. Some prepared the cheeseburgers, others put the meal together and some took the meal inside for the guests. Candy helped to prepare & wrap the cheeseburgers while Jay transported the grilled hamburgers from the BBQ to where they were assembled. Over 400 cheeseburgers were prepared and served to the 200 plus attendees.

When all of the fun was over and the gifts were passed out, we stayed and help put things away. At Holy Family this is referred to as the “ministry of the chairs”.

Smiles, laughter, songs and dancing abound. It was a great day!

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This week we were honored to have David Kennedy speak to us on the LGBTQ+ ministry in the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

The first thing that Dave share with us is that this ministry has been active in Los Angeles for over thirty years! He also said that each parish is comprised of around 10% of those who are members of the LGBTQ+ community.

David related how many of the community that are LGBTQ+ have left the church and the many reasons why, as well as how the community has the opportunity to reach out to start a conversation with those who have left the church. How many who were raised in the faith feel they are not welcomed, fearing judgement and even percussion. The ministry attend Gay Pride Parades in San Diego and San Francisco, keeping the conversation open to welcoming back those who are searching for grace, understanding and God’s unconditional love within the community.

One of the areas where you can find excellent information is the Family Acceptance Project that is facilitated by the University of San Francisco. For additional information see https://familyproject.sfsu.edu/ .

Another of the other areas that Dave discussed were those areas in scripture which are commonly used as anti-LGBTQ+. This was a lengthy, in depth discussion showing how many of the passages are taken out of context.

Dave also discussed the three sections of the Catholic Catechism that discusses homosexuality (2357 – 2359).

The last area discussed was the need for not only ministries for the LGBTQ+ community, but for their parents, family and friends as well. Holy Family has such a ministry. Here is the information about this ministry:

Many LGBT people feel disconnected from their Church. Holy Family’s LGBT Ministry, in the spirit of ALL ARE WELCOME, provides a confidential, safe environment for discussion, education and socialization every Wednesday evening. LGBT people, as well as their parents, are welcome. For further information please contact Elizabeth S. Taylor, Ph.D., Ministry Chair at 626.792.1103.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This week we were honored to have Fr. Joel Hensen speak to us on the sacrament of Matrimony.

The main document that we used was the new “Order of Celebrating Matrimony”. This Rite, like all of the others, contain an introduction. This introduction describes the following: the Importance and Dignity of the Sacrament of Matrimony, the Duties and Ministries, the Celebration of Matrimony, and Adaptations to Be Prepared by the Conference of Bishops. There are also four chapters: The order of Celebrating Matrimony within Mass, The Order of Celebrating Matrimony without Mass, The order of Celebrating Matrimony between a Catholic and a Catechumen or Non-Christian

and Various Texts to Be Used in the Rite of Marriage and in the Mass For the Celebration of Marriage. Lastly, there is the Appendix. The Appendices has three sections: Examples of the Universal Prayer, The Order of Blessing an Engaged Couple, and the Order of Blessing a Married Couple within Mass on the Anniversary of Marriage.

We spent most of the class discussing the first three parts of the introduction and how it related to the various matrimony rites in the following chapters. The content in the introduction is very rich and is helpful to be prior to discussing marriage with a couple or witnessing the rite of matrimony. The term witnessing is used because, as a deacon, you would witness the marriage. The sacrament is conducted between the two who are getting married.

Father Joel encouraged the class to take part in Marriage preparation ministry within their parishes. While a great deal of the preparation is focused on the ceremony itself, it is important to work with couples who are making a lifelong commitment, that the marriage ceremony is an important time, the couple is beginning a life that can be filled with a multitude of challenges. We, as a community, need to assist those who are considering marriage in the Church, which is a public ceremony, to understand the love that God has freely given to all of creation. This is the foundation of our faith, God’s Love, Free, and Exclusive for Life. This is how God loves, we, who are created in the divine image of God, live the same commitment, in marriage.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This week we were honored again to be joined by Deacon Rick & Maureen Soria who spoke on the Family of Origin and Languages of Love.

jays-blog-10-20-16 — Deacon Rick & Maureen Soria

Deacon Rick and Maureen discussed with us how they conduct the sacrament of matrimony preparation at their home parish, St. Margaret Mary Alacoque in Lomita.

Besides completing the “Focus” questionnaire and attending a Marriage Encounter weekend, they invite three to four couples into their home for two separate evenings. These evenings focus on a version of the Myers-Briggs analysis which allows the couples to see what traits are present in each other and to discuss them.

Another aspect is their family of origin. That is to discuss how their families did things. What happened when their parents fought? What was it like when you got in trouble with each parent? Were they from large or small families? What happened at family gatherings? These discussions allow each one to understand the background of the person they are going to wed and how they may respond in a given situation.

There was discussion of conflict resolution. When you have an argument about something, the first thing to do is to pray about it together. The next is to allow each other to discuss what they are seeing and why it is a problem. While one is talking, the other is actively listening. If a point is missed, they are asked to repeat it. After both have discussed, try to come to a resolution that you both can buy into. Place a date on the resolution so that when the date arrives you can discuss it to see how it is working. If it is not, you can drop it and try something else.

The last item that was discussed was the book “The Five Languages of Love” by Gary Chapman. In this book, the author discusses five languages of love. These languages are those that an individual gives love in and in return expects to receive love back. The five languages are: Words of affection, Acts of Service, Quality time together, Physical touch and Gifts.

So, how are these applied and how do they work. Say for example the top two languages for one were words of affection and physical touch while for the other it was acts of service and gifts. Here is what could happen:

The one would always thank the other for what they had done that day. Maybe put gas in the car or did the dishes. Or they might give them a small kiss. Meanwhile, the other who had put gas in the car and did the dishes, also brought home flowers. Each one had something to show their love for the other in their language of love. Unfortunately, it was missed. Instead of putting gas in the car or buying flowers, a simple “I love you” or holdings hands while you walk would be better. Instead of saying thanks or giving them a small kiss, they would appreciate some type of act, maybe getting the car washed or getting them a nice card to express your feelings.

When your language of love is identified by how you show love, it is also how you wish love to be shown to you. This is very important especially is your spouse speaks a language of love that is different than you.

We are lucky in this regard, we have the same top two “love languages” : Acts of Service and Physical touch.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This week we were honored to have Fr. Joel Hensen speak to us on the sacrament of Matrimony.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This class Candy and Jay had a SCAP practicum. SCAP is short for Sunday Celebrations in the Absence of a Priest. The premise is that Jay is an ordained Deacon preparing to assist the presider at a Sunday Mass. A short time prior to the schedule of the Mass, you receive word that an emergency has come up and the presider cannot be at Mass and there is not another priest available. The prayers and readings were to be from Sunday that followed the class.

As Mass was attended on Sunday, Jay and Candy decided to provide you with a comparison between the Mass and a SCAP. So, imagine, you went to Mass on Sunday, and the presider had and emergency and couldn’t make it to Mass and there was no other priest available. Also imagine that Jay had been ordained a Deacon.

Prior to the Mass, those involved in the Mass (Lectors, Sacristan, EMs, Altar Servers, Head Usher, Cantor and Choir Director) would meet to discuss what was going to happen at the Communion Service. These will be discussed as we reach them.

Before starting what would become a “Communion Service” Jay would come out of the Sacristy and address the congregation and explain what is happening. Because of the nature of the emergency, the congregation would be informed that, even though this would be a “Communion Service” and not a Mass, that it would meet their Sunday obligation.

Jay then would proceed to the entrance of the church for the entrance procession. As the procession reaches the altar, all proceeds as normal. Once Jay reaches the altar, he bows and the proceeds to the chair located to what would be the presider’s right (or their left hand side as viewed from the congregation). The reason for this is that Jay’s station is still at the Deacon’s chair and not the presider’s chair.

The Introductory Rite would commence with the Sign of the Cross and greeting. It would be followed by the “Lord have Mercy” followed by the Gloria. The prayer said by the priest between the two is omitted. Once the Gloria has completed, we begin the “Liturgy of the Word”. This would be just as it would be on a Sunday, Lectors proclaiming the first two readings and the cantor leading the Responsory, with the Deacon proclaiming the Gospel and then providing a homily. If this was at a Mass where there were Catechumens/Elect were to be dismissed, this would happen.

The community would the pray the Profession of Faith followed by the Prayers of the Faithful. Once this happened, the congregation would be seated. Jay would proceed to the front of the sanctuary and explain that since there would be no consecration, there is no need for the bread or wine to be brought forth. However, we will still have the basket of food brought up and placed in the front of the altar to remind us of those in need within our community. There would also be a collection so that the community of Holy Family may continue to support the needs of others, facilitated by the many ministries.

After the collection has completed, the community stands. At this point, Jay, as the Communion Service would go to the tabernacle, genuflect, open it and bring the consecrated host to the altar. Once back at the altar, the community would pray the Lord’s Prayer. There is no prayer afterwards or the reciting or singing the “Lamb of God”. Jay would genuflect and then hosts are divided between the different ciboria. Once this has been done, the following prayer would be recited by Jay, “This is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world. Happy are those who are called to his supper.” The community responds with, “Lord, I am not worthy to receive you but only say the word and I shall be healed.”

Once communion has been distributed, any remaining hosts are returned to the tabernacle. Jay would return to the Deacon’s chair for a moment of silence and reflection. The community would stand for the prayer after communion and then be seated for any announcements. Once the announcements are completed, the community stands for the Concluding Rite which includes a blessing. Remember, because, for this ceremony, we were imagining that Jay has already been ordained, he can provide a blessing to the community.

After the Blessing, Jay and the altar servers would either enter the sacristy or process out to the entrance of the church.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

After the Blessing, Jay and the altar servers would either enter the sacristy or process out to the entrance of the church.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Today, our morning was spent with Father Dave Heney (pictured right), author of “Don’t Tell Me What To Do!” A Catholic Understand of Modern Moral Issues. This was one of the assigned readings that we had over the summer and the first time that we were able to hear the author of one of our assigned readings in person!

The focus of Fr Dave’s talk was what happened to humanity in the Garden of Eden and how it translates to today.bbHe stated that we are created with the following:

–       Equality. That we are equal before God and before each other.
–       Freedom. That God gave each of us the power to make our own choices.
–       Goodness. God created us as good persons. We are good because God loves us.
–       Helpful. We serve and care for others.
–       Worship. Through gratitude we experience our faith which is our response to the discovery of our life and its origin in God.

We then spent the rest of the morning discussing how the virtues about relate to our current lives and how we interact with each other and our God.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Candy and Jay Krueger

On September 17, 2016 we met for our first class of fifth and final year of Diaconate formation at St. Paschal Baylon Church in Thousand Oaks. Next week we will return to Alemany High School in Mission Hills

Today was our first class day with Deacon Memo and his wife Liliana. One of our summer homework assignments was to complete the Strength Finder or Living your Strengths to find out what your top five strengths are. Candy had completed the questionnaire and attended Living Your Strength workshop offered at Holy Family Church a number of years ago, Jay also completed the workshop and found that he had two strengths in common with Candy, which is unusual for married a couple.

So each one of us grabbed a large post-it (the 2 by 4 foot size) and wrote our strengths in order along with our name. We then returned to the classroom and posted them on the walls. Then we each went through our strengths and explained what part of the explanation applied the most to us.

The next activity was wonderful! We each took a marker and added another “strengths” or gifts that we felt the individual had. Candy and Jay would like to share their strengths from both “Living your Strengths” as well as those added by their classmates, all positive and up lifting.

For Candy from “Living your Strengths”: Adaptability, Includer, Maximizer, Developer and Empathy. From classmates: Nurturing, Best Hugger, Insightful, Relatable, Enabler (in a good way), Helpful, Wonderful, Good Cooker, Amazing, Motherly, Lovely, Warm, Reliable, Concern, Unconditional Thoughtful and Intellection.

For Jay from “Living your Strengths”: Connectedness, Empathy, Developer, Positivity, and Belief. From Classmates: Sensitive, Intelligent, Innocent, Generous, Thoughtful, Gentle, Warm, Thoughtful, Compassion, Loving, Adaptable, Funny, Energetic, and Friendly.

While we had time during the summer to meet with some class members, once again being together, sharing stories of summer trips, family’s adventures and the coming year re-connected the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Formation Class, looking forward to the events of this final year. It will be an adventure.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This was the fifth ordination that Jay had attended and third for Candy. The last two we participated in some way.

Jay stated to some of his classmates, it felt like his fifteenth birthday. He knew that in a year he would be sixteen and able to get a driver license. The next permanent diaconate ordination that will take place in the Cathedral will be for St. Elizabeth Ann Seton class. It will be those whom we have been journeying with over the past four plus years. The St. Elizabeth Ann Seton class was an active participants in the ceremony, Acolytes in service of the Arch Bishop, Gift Bearers, Banner Bearers, women and men of the class as well as year three who helped make this ceremony which was rich in tradition as well a glimpse into next year’s ceremony.

At the end of the service the Archbishop requested all in attendance to recite a prayer, a prayer for Vocations:

Good and gracious God, You have called us through our baptism to discipleship with your son, Jesus Christ, and have sent us to bring the Good News of salvation to all people.

We pray for you to grant us more priests, deacons, religious brothers and sisters and lay ministers to build up your Church within the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

Inspire our young men and women by the example of Saint Junipero Serra to give themselves totally to the work of Christ and his Church.

We ask this in the name of Jesus, the Lord. Amen.

We are all called to be disciples of Jesus, to do the good works begun by his love for God and for us. When we are silent for a moment and listen, we will hear that soft gentle voice that calls to us to action, to help those who live on the margins, who have no voice, those who mourn, who are hungry, who are naked, who are incarcerated and who God calls each of us to help. Simple actions will have life changing results, see Jesus in all you encounter, grace flow from each of us, be the hands and feet of our beloved brother Jesus Christ.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

Today is very surreal. We remember being here four years ago. We had just completed our silent retreat and started in 19th annotation of St. Ignatius. It was the first time that we had seen all of those who were Diaconate formation. Around 100 with most with their spouse. There was what seemed to be a sea of chairs, so many people, and the conversations were plentiful. As they announced each class, we remember hearing the applause for those in the Ordination year, as our class stood to a rousing round of applause, we thought, how far in the future the ordination class was. How distant.

How quickly the past four years of formation have gone by.

Today we were divided into twenty-six different groups or families. Each group tried to have at last one member form each class year. As fifth year, Candy and Jay led the family discussions. Five questions were provided and discussed the best part of formation, the biggest challenge, what you were most grateful for, how you have put your knowledge into service and in what ways are you trying to live out “mercy”.

Jay decided to go a little off topic and discuss how each one came into formation and what it was like when they received their letter of acceptance into formation.

The different years had many of the same experiences, however the journey for each individual was so very different. We all talked of joys and sorrows, struggles and doubts, acknowledging that this journey wasn’t exactly what we had expected. The support given by each member was inspirational, we have found that there is nothing that we cannot get through together.

We talked for around ninety minutes and it was a great time to get to know people in the other formation years. Being able to put a face with a name and knowing those in the different years is a support in itself. This Meet and Greet begins our final year of formation, however this Meet and Greet once again reminds us of the uplifting and richness that is Deaconate Formation.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

On September 10, 2016 we met for the opening Meet & Greet of our fifth and final year of Diaconate formation at St. Louis of France, in La Puente. Next week we will be meeting at St. Paschal Baylon Church in Thousand Oaks. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes)

How quickly the past four years of formation have gone by.

Jay decided to go a little off topic and discuss how each one came into formation and what it was like when they received their letter of acceptance into formation.

And our Diaconate Journey continues…

This was our last class in Mission Hills for year 4. One of the rituals of our class has adopted is on the last class at Alemany High School is to pray our evening Liturgy of the Hours (LOH) at the grave of our classmate Tess who died in our second year of formation (The Cemetery is west of the HS). Please see this link for more information on (LOH) as well as our good friend Tess https://holyfamily.org/diaconate-journey-continues-liturgy-of-the-hours/. The picture is of our class, including our facilitator Kathy Lindell (Top right), also our Class mentor Deacon Mike Hildago (second to the top left)

The afternoon was filled with puffy white clouds, a gentle breeze came up as we gathered at Tess’s grave, the cemetery filled with flowers, left from Mother’s Day a few weeks ago. As we gather in a circle for the LOH there was a since of calm, our dear friend Tess was present, as she has been from the very beginning. As a class we have given our support and prayers to Tess’s husband Ding, his strength and fortitude during the past two years has been inspiring. He begins a new chapter in his life, our prayers and love go with him, knowing that the Holy Spirit will guide him on the path of life, Ding will be sorely missed, quiet in nature, powerful in spirit, kind and enduring. We pray that our Heavenly Father continues to bless and protect Ding and his family as well the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Class, which will forever be united in Christ.

And the Journey Continues.

This year, one of the focus areas was that of the Sacrament of Baptism. This included a practicum (i.e. a complete run through of the item, i.e. a Rite of Baptism). We asked two of our classmates to be the parents of “Grace Charlotte” and another two to be the godparents. We prepared a worship aid, including music, selected the readings and responses, a brief yet inspiring homily, saints to include in the Litany of the Saints, and which prayers would be utilized. (Please click here to read all of our experiences of the bi-monthly Deacon formation classes).

We then set up in the chapel at Alemany High School for the Baptism and Jay dawned the alb that he wears at Sunday Masses. We conducted the entire Baptism from beginning to end which took about thirty five minutes.

Although Jay was nervous (OK, VERY nervous) as the service started, he was able to do a pretty good job. Candy gave it an A- while Jay gave a B+. With practice and collaboration the practicum went very smoothly and feedback was positive.

Once you have completed the practicum, you then sit through a post mortem. This includes comments from our facilitator, classmates, Deacon Mentor Couple, and today we also received additional comments from Deacon Rick and Maureen Soria whose Baptism Service we had attended last year. The comments were filled with wonderful suggestions about how we can improve our Baptisms, also suggestions that all in our class can also use. Observation from those in the assembly can be very beneficial, seeing and also hearing the service for those who are involved in the practicum.

From Candy:
Good Friday, a time of quiet reflection, when the Passion reaches out and consumes me, the horror of the trials, the pain and humiliation of the whipping and caning. That long walk, the weight of the cross, the pain of the crown of thrones, those who have gathered to taunt and ridicule, the pain, but never stopping, even when it seemed that the journey would never end. The torture of being nailed to the cross, the jeers of the crowd, with his Mother and the Beloved Disciples watching. I find myself in tears, running down my cheeks wanted to make these events stop, to realize that his love of me made all these events necessary, with all the honorific events there was a purpose, my heart breaks as he draws his last breath, it is done.

The wooden cross is laid before the altar, then retrieved as the hands of the community and lifted above their heads, fingers stretch out, parents lift up their children to touch the cross as it passes over their heads, arms of the strong, the hands of the weak, the cross lowered, supported to give all a chance to touch, all eyes watch the symbol of his death, reaching out to be a part of his death, each wanting to lift up the cross, knowing that this is not where the story ends.

From Jay:
The Holy Saturday service was different being an Acolyte. Besides seeing the joy in the new members of the community, there was a special moment here. I saw a friend on crutches and noticed a number of people in wheel chairs. They would not be able to bless themselves at the baptismal pool due to the steps. I was able to find a small bowl, put some holy water in it from the font and take it to those who would not be able to come up themselves. The smile on their faces as I brought the holy water around almost had me in tears. I could see the gratefulness that I had thought enough of them to bring this special gift to them.

I was able to serve as an Acolyte at two Masses in the Church and one in the hall. I was also a Eucharistic Minister (EM) for these Masses. When I first become an EM, one presider told me that when you give the Body of Christ to the Body of Christ, do so with a smile on your face. When people see the joy that you have, they are able to take it with them.

As, we have mention previously, one of the focuses for this year is the sacrament of Baptism. Although we were not the presiders, we did have a role. We were the parents of Joseph, the baby (actually the doll) who was being baptized.

As with all parents, it had been many years since our children were baptized. Even though Jay has assisted as an acolyte for many baptisms recently, being in the role of parent was very different.

We answered the questions that is asked of the parents. What do you ask of God’s Church for Joseph? Do you clearly understand what you are undertaking? The questions relating to the renunciation of sin and the profession of faith.

We hold Joseph for the two anointings with oil and the baptism. We hold Joseph as the Deacon gently pours blessed water over the crown of his head. We clothe him in a white garment, a symbol of his new life and membership into our Church and receive a lite candle, a symbol of the eternal light of Jesus Christ. The sacrament ends with the parents and godparents receiving a blessing from all those in attendance to show a solidarity of the living Church to the parent and godparents, to be a living example of God’s love for the family and friends.

It is very important to understand what it feels like when a child is baptized. It is important so that you can help the parents, godparents, family and friends. Help them to understand the blessing that this sacrament is, how important a part the parents and Godparents will make in the life of their child in its spiritual growth and understanding the love God has for their child as well as the grace that now resides in the child’s spirit and the commitment that they are making in the name of the child who is being baptized.

Fr. Alexei Smith, was born in Los Angeles. He obtained his Undergraduate studies in the field of International Relations from the University of Southern California, Los Angeles. He was awarded a Master of Divinity Degree with High Distinction from Holy Cross Greek Orthodox School of Theology, Brookline, Mass. In 1987 he was ordained as a Melkite Greek Catholic Priest and appointed Administrator of Saint Andrew Russian Greek Catholic Church and Saint Paul Melkite Greek Catholic Mission in El Segundo, Calif.

On June 6, 1994 Cardinal Roger Mahony appointed Fr. Alexei Smith as his

Principal Liaison and Personal Representative to the Orthodox Roman Catholic Dialogue. On October, 1997 he was elected to the Council of Priests of the Eparchy of Newton. In 1999 he became Vice Chairman of the Council of Priests of the Archdiocese of Los Angeles and appointed Chair of the Priestly Life and Ministry Committee. That same year he was appointed Protopresbyter of the Western Region of the Melkite Greek Catholic Eparchy of Newton by Bishop John Adel Elya. In November 2000, Cardinal Roger Mahony appointed Rev. Alexei Smith the Director of the Office of Ecumenical and Interreligious Affairs for the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

One of the topics that Father talked about is the large number of Catholic and non-Catholic Marriages that take place. He also stated that it is important to ensure that both feel welcome in the parish. One example of where this can happen is in the ministries of the parish. In doing a quick glance through the 90 plus ministries, there are less than 10 that would one would need to be a practicing Catholic in order to join. Those that join us during Mass add their voices and spirit to our service, they enrich our lives with their presence. We have a unique and precious gift in those who wish to worship with us in adoration of our loving and merciful God, those who are not of the Catholic Faith, however rich in faith and the prayerful grace of our Creator.

We all are called, with our Baptism, to be of service to our community, whether it be Catholic or another Christian Faith. By that Baptism we are joined with the body of Christ and apart of his church, we are called to share, work, pray, be joyful within that body. We join together as a powerful presence to make our world a better place, reaching out to those who grieve, those who hunger, those who are incarcerated, those who naked, those who need our help. We do this with the help of our sisters and brothers in Christ, those whom we might not pray with weekly, however they are those whom we reach out to, speak with, pray with, join with for a common cause, our sisters and brothers in Christ, by benefit of our Baptism. Indeed there is more that draws up together then keeps us apart.

For the Baptism practicum they will take place over the next 12 classes in the chapel at the high school. We will be responsible for preparing the environment, including the baptismal font, producing the worship aid, getting classmates to participate in the various roles. The entire practicum should take about 45 minutes and is for a single child.

If, by chance you either have your child Baptized or you attend a Baptism at Holy Family, you will more than likely see Jay in attendance. He is there to assist, observe, and become more comfortable with the rite.

As part of this prayer we share the different parts of this prayer. The parts are: Presider, the one who leads the prayer, the Psalm Leader, who leads the praying of the Psalms, the Reader, who reads the scripture passage and the Other Person, who leads the Responsory. Jay had the role of Morning Prayer Presider this week. An additional role of the Presider is to provide a reflection on the reading read during Morning Prayer.

Today’s reading was from Isaiah 2:3b

“Come, let us climb the Lord’s mountain,
To the house of the God of Jacob,
That he may instruct us in his ways,
And we may walk in his paths.
For from Zion shall go forth instruction,
and the word of the Lord from Jerusalem.”

The reflection that Jay provided went something like this:

So, where do we find the Lord’s mountain? Is it in Mission Hills at Alemany High School? Or, perhaps it is in La Puente at St. Louis of France Parish, or Immaculate Conception Parish in Glendale. It could even be our own Parish. It could also be the place where we pray Morning Prayer. The Lord’s mountain is, to me, anywhere we go to and receive instruction about our faith. We learn how to walk in his path.

The next part is where we go with this knowledge, this instruction, with this path that we have learned to walk in and how do we apply it. Can we share it with those at work? Can we take it and apply it when a person takes that parking space that we have been waiting patiently for?

During this joyful season each of us receive special gifts from the God of Jacob. May we be able to take the gifts we have been given and share them; especially with another whose gift we may be carrying.

As a group we have all struggled with the many mountains life has presented through the past four years. We all have children, some have grandchildren, jobs, mortgages, responsibilities that everyday life presents. We, as a group, have formed a very special bond, knowing that when we struggle to scale that mountain that we do not journey alone, joining together in prayer and support, words of encouragement and advice. We center ourselves in the knowledge that God’s will be done, that the difficult and sometimes heart breaking events are necessary to temper the armor that His will has given to us, so that we can walk his paths and climb that mountain, to be exactly where God wants us to be and give thanks for His unconditional love.

May you blessed as we celebrate the birth of our Lord and as we continue to care for those on the margins of society.

As a couple in Diaconate Formation one of the many items that you agree to do is to pray the Liturgy of the Hours. This is also referred as the prayer of the Church and is being prayed somewhere in the world 24/7, 365 (or 366 if a leap year) days a year.
As part of this prayer we share the different parts of this prayer. The parts are: Presider, the one who leads the prayer, the Psalm Leader, who leads the praying of the Psalms, the Reader, who reads the scripture passage and the Other Person, who leads the Responsory. These roles are the same for both morning and evening prayer with one exception; the Presider for Morning Prayer is also responsible for preparation of the prayer table. Candy was the Presider this week and had this responsibility.

The prayer table, pictured to the left, is comprised of many elements. These elements reflect not only the liturgical season, but also contain aspects that are special to the Presider. This table is covered in purple clothes for the season of Advent. At the top of the picture you can see a purple bowl that contains water, the symbol of life. There is also an advent wreath, made from evergreen, which is symbolic of nature and promise. Since this was the first week of advent, the first purple candle was lit in the morning and then the second prior to the start of evening prayer. The advent wreath reminds us of where we are in our preparation for celebrating the birth of Christ.

The Bible that was place on the table is the one Candy received during her Rite of Acceptance into RCIA. The two sets of prayer beads and marriage medallion were gifts from Deacon Chris and Yvonne, Candy and Jay’s first year Diaconate Formation facilitators. The last item on the table is a crystal cross. This was a gift to Candy and Jay from their very best friends, Frank and Mara Chimenti, who had ask that one question which started this journey, if they had ever considered becoming a Deacon Couple.

As you can see from the description, each table represents the liturgical season, but is, at the same time, unique and meaningful for the person who prepares it.The symbols and elements of each table represents the presider, those elements of their homes and everyday lives which brings prayer and celebration to all who see these items. Do you have elements in your home with which you celebrate the seasons and special days of faith? Do you share these symbols and elements with your loved ones and those who visit your home? What traditions do you incorporate into your Advent and Christmas Celebrations? Tell your family, especially the children about these symbols and make them apart of their everyday life and celebration to bring the longing and waiting of Advent, the birth of the child in Bethlehem, the Joys of the Christmas Season to life.

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The majority of today’s class was spent discussion the General Instructions of the Roman Missal or, as it is referred to, the GIRM.

Most people have never looked at the document and would surmise by the title that it contains the “rubrics” or the rules of what should be done during Mass. While it is true that the GIRM contains rubrics, it contains much more. It contains the theology and the history of our Church. So, not just the how, but the what and the why.

If you love liturgy and wand to find out more about it, the GIRM is the document for you.

Our brief encounter with this document today helped us to understand its structure and layout so that we could utilize it in the future to answer questions that we or others may have on different aspects of the liturgy and the how, what and why behind each answer.

We would like to send our richest blessings during this time of Thanksgiving, and pray that as we enter into the rich and inspiring time of Advent that our Heavenly Father continues to bless you and keep you in the warm embrace of his compassion and unconditional love.

On this weekend we were not in class. We were able to speak at all Masses this weekend after the announcements. Jay served as an Acolyte at all Masses and also made the announcements except for 9:30 am. Next Saturday, November 11th, we will return to Alemany High School in Mission Hills for our class on infant baptism.

The reason we spoke at each Mass is to continue to provide catechesis to the Holy Family Community about; who we are, our continuing journey, and the Diaconate. This is a monumental task to complete in under three minutes. The Parish Highlight (page 13 of the bulletin) and the pamphlet on the Diaconate were the only things that made this task possible. A big surprise came after we completed our first three-minute talk at 5 pm Mass on Saturday and the community applauded. This happened at each of the following Masses including 9:30 with Bishop O’Connell.

After Mass we were in the gathering area to answer questions. Most people said “congratulations” and that they were praying for us and thanked us for our commitment to the community. The surprise here was the number of people who commented about marriage, be it theirs, ours or about our ministry together as a married couple. After all, we were married for 30 years before we even considered the Diaconate.

In terms of our diaconate formation, we are in our fourth of five years. Our class’s ordination will occur in June of 2017.

On most Sundays you will continue to find us at 5:30 pm Mass with Jay serving as an Acolyte (See https://holyfamily.org/what-is-an-acolyte/ for what an Acolyte can do). Please feel free to ask us any questions you may have about the Diaconate.

Jay will also be cycling through the other Sunday or Sunday Vigil Masses. After Mass, Jay will be in the vestibule to answer any questions you may have about the Diaconate, his role as an Acolyte, or our ongoing diaconate journey.

There was one last surprise relating to the weekend. Jay was at the cafeteria at JPL getting lunch when someone came up to him and asked if he was the one who spoke at Mass on Sunday. This was a first. Jay promises to do a better job when responding to people when they talk to him outside of a “Church” setting.

The culmination of the retreat was the reception of the Rite of Acolyte. This was conferred during the Saturday evening Mass with Bishop Salazar as the Presider and Deacon Ryan Adams as the Master of Ceremonies.

Jay Krueger receiving the Right of Acolyte — Jay Krueger receiving the Rite of Acolyte from Bishop Salazar (Seated in center). Deacon Ryan Adams (Right) is holding the Book of Rites

After receiving the Rite on Saturday, Jay assisted at the 5:30pm Sunday Mass by serving as Acolyte.

Our next class will be October 10, 2015 at Alemany High School, Mission Hills. (If you count the retreat, the 10^th will be our sixth class in a row. Usually, classes are held every other weekend. It has been a challenge to complete all of the homework with 6 days between classes.)

The morning was spent with Deacon Ryan Adams and his wife Wynsdey. They went through aspects of the role of an acolyte. The couples were instructed on the responsibilities of the acolyte and how the wives could assist their husbands. This was done in the chapel at the high school.

All of those who received the previous two rites (Candidate and Lector) will receive the rite of Acolyte during the class retreat, October 2-4, at Holy Spirit Retreat Center in Encino. Bishop Salazar will be the presider over the rite.

Originally, Jay was under the impression that with this rite, he would become a 58 year old altar boy. He was wrong.

Yes, many of the functions of an Acolyte at a Mass are currently performed by an altar server. This also true of functions performed by a Deacon. There are also functions performed by a Lector, a Sacristan, and a Eucharistic Minister.

As an Acolyte, you always vest in an alb and will process in and out with the Priest. In this duty you may carry the cross in or the book of the Gospels, or process in prior to the book of the Gospels. The Acolyte may assist with the usage of incense during the various parts of the Mass.

Unless a Deacon is present, the Acolyte would sit at the right of the presider. Depending on who is present at the Mass, the Acolyte may lead the Prayers of the Faithful. Since the Acolyte has already received the rite or Reader (Lector), he may also proclaim the non-Gospel readings.

The Acolyte may dress the altar, if no Deacon is present, or assist if a Deacon is present. This would be placing the Roman Missal, Chalice, Communion Cups, etc. on the altar.

The Acolyte, would go with the presider and Deacon, if present, to receive the gifts of Bread and Wine from the faithful. If no deacon is present, the Acolyte, may pour the wine into the Chalice and Communion Cups based on the preferences of the presider.

Unlike a Deacon, an Acolyte kneels during the entire Eucharistic Prayer, similar to the congregation and altar servers. If needed, the Acolyte may distribute communion as well as purify. Lastly, the Acolyte processes out after the Altar Servers, but prior to the Deacon and Priest.

The significant difference between the Acolyte and the Altar Servers, is that the Acolyte remains in the back of the Church to meet with the community.

The rite of Acolyte, as was stated before is the last rite received prior to being ordained as a Deacon. In service as an Acolyte at Mass, this would allow the other ministers who are serving at the altar to become comfortable with some of the duties that will be performed by a Deacon. It will also help the community to become familiar with Candy and Jay, who are currently in their fourth (of five) years of diaconate formation.

This class was the first all group meet and greet of the year. All of those who are currently in diaconate formation (all five years) were present. We were divided up into small family groups of 6 to 8 individuals comprised of English & Spanish speakers, one person who was bi-lingual, and, where possible, at least one person, man or woman, from each year of formation. We were in different groups and they were greatly diversified. Multiple years, multiple languages, and from all locations across the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

Even though all five years receive their formation at the same location, Alemany High School, and we see each other every Saturday that we have class, we rarely have time to converse, let alone, find out anything about each other. Today was to resolve this issue, at least in a small way.

Each family was given an identical list of five questions that each member was to answer, in turn. Since the groups had individuals that spoke English, Spanish or both, time was taken to translate each response from one language to another.

The questions were as follows:

What has been the best part of being in formation for you so far? Why?
What has been the biggest challenge for you in formation for you so far? Why?
What are you most grateful for during your formation? Why?
What specific way will you put into service what you have gained from formation?
IN what ways will you try to live out the “mercy” that we will be living in this Year of Mercy?

The responses were varied as the locations we were from. The best part included being able to share your faith with your spouse, building lifelong friendships with your classmates, and deepening love for God. In terms of challenges most agreed it was managing your time between formation, family, work and your faith community. Grateful for included the development of a strong prayer life, journeying with all of those in formation, and understanding the history of the church. Ways to put into what service what has been learned included learning how to help those grieving over the loss of a loved one, explaining your faith to those in R.C.I. A., and instructing those who have brought their child to the church for baptism. Mercy was to utilize the gift of service that we all have received.

So, though our sharing, we became more of a family. Understanding that we are all different, however all on the same journey. We are truly a family in formation.

Your continued prayers and support during this process are greatly appreciated. We are sure that we would not be able to continue without them.

September 12, 2015 We begin our fourth of a five year journey in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class. Our first class as well as our next class was held at Alemany High School, in Mission Hills. After three years, we think that the car can almost drive there itself.

Most of the morning was spent discussing everyone’s high and low points of the summer. There were weddings and funerals. There were Baptisms and divorces. There were surgeries and retirements. There were the moving of businesses as well as family members. As we discussed the highs and lows, sometimes there were tears and sometimes laughter. We have become a very close knitted group, we can share freely the joys and sorrows in each of our lives. Each one of us struggle with an illness, a death of a loved one, a child who divorced, we band together to lift the others up in prayer and praise asking for the graces and strength to see and support one another through the moments when one of us falls.

It was helpful to hear what happened in the lives of our classmates over the summer, helping us reconnect with one other. As with lifelong friendships, even those separated by time and distance, once united again, all the time and space evaporate and it is like we were never separated.

The lives of those in diaconate formation as well as those who are deacon couples are no different than anyone else’s. What can be different is the way in which we respond to events and situations. The training that we receive in formation is helpful not only to those who we will be ministering to, but to ourselves as well.

Understanding the aspects of a funeral (Vigil, Mass and Internment) allows us to help grieving family members cope with the loss of a loved one and be supported through the process. Jay was able to conduct the memorial service for his mother when she passed away a few years ago. Being responsible for both the memorial service and eulogy caused him to look back over his mother’s life and he was able to provide a service that he knew that she would have liked. This experience and empathy helps us to understand what someone might be going though when they have lost a loved one and helps us work with the family members to ensure that the services that are conducted are mindful of the requests of the family.

Your continued prayers and support during this process are greatly appreciated. We are sure that we would not be able to continue without them.

On June 13^th, the previous Saturday, we completed our oral exam for the third year of formation. This exam was given by Deacon Mike and covered material from all three years of formation. The main purpose of this exam is to continue to prepare us for our final oral exam given sometime during our 5^th year. This exam will be given by members of the formation team and will cover information that we learned during our five years of diaconate formation.

For our last class, we had morning and evening prayer, had two witness talks, reviewed the homework that was due that day and covered the evaluation for this year. What we would like to focus on were those items brought up by us and our classmates as highlights of this year.

Items that were brought up as highlights included the following:

Being able to participate in the diaconate ordination earlier in the month.
Rite of Reader. Blessed by Cardinal Mahony with the second of three rites during diaconate formation.
The evening prayer that was held for our last class at Alemany High School. We gathered around the grave of our sister Tess. Ding, her husband, was the presider for evening Liturgy of the Hours.
The witness talks. Through these we learned about the spiritual journey of our classmates.
Checking-in. Spending the first hour of class where we took time out of our regular class and everyone present had the opportunity to share how things were going in their life.
The coat drive. For many this was the first time they had made a request to their parish about donations and collecting items for those less fortunate in the community. Everyone was amazed at the generous response that they received.

Your continued prayers and support during this process are greatly appreciated. We are sure that we would not be able to continue without them.

One of the items discussed during this class was an article from “The Deacon Reader” which was edited by James Keating. The article “The Contemporary Renewal of the Diaconate” was written by Deacon William T. Ditewig. The article covered how the Permanent Diaconate was discussed during Vatican II. One of the reasons for the restoration of the Diaconate was the shortage of priests, partly because of World War II, many Catholic Clergy were imprisoned in Germany and Italy. The majority were imprisoned, man were executed in the German Concentration Camp of Dachau.

We discussed the article at great length and agreed that it was good to have knowledge of how the Diaconate was formed during Vatican II. It was also agreed that this book would be an excellent resource for an individual or couple considering the Diaconate.

We will be assisting with the presentation of the gifts at the Diaconate Ordination on June 6^th. Nineteen Deacons will be ordained. We have completed our two quizzes for the year and will have our oral exam for this year on June 13^th.

Our last class will be held at St. Louis of France in La Puente on June 20^th and we will officially have completed our third year of formation and have only two years remaining.

In the fall of next year, those who received the rite of reader last year will receive the rite of acolyte. This is the last rite received prior to ordination. Ordination for the Elizabeth Ann Seaton class would occur at the end of their fifth year of formation, June 2017.

Below is some additional information about an acolyte from the General Instructions of the Roman Missal (GIRM). :

GIRM 187-193: The Functions of the Acolyte

The functions that the acolyte may carry out are of various kinds and several may occur at the same moment. Hence, it is desirable that these duties be suitably distributed among several acolytes. If, in fact, only one acolyte is present, he should perform the more important duties while the rest are to be distributed among several ministers.

Duties during the Introductory Rites:

In the procession to the altar, the acolyte may carry the cross, walking between two ministers with lighted candles. Upon reaching the altar, however, the acolyte places the cross upright near the altar so that it may serve as the altar cross; otherwise, he puts it away in a dignified place. Then he takes his place in the sanctuary.
Through the entire celebration, it is for the acolyte to approach the Priest or the Deacon, whenever necessary, in order to present the book to them and to assist them in any other way required. Thus it is appropriate that, in so far as possible, the acolyte should occupy a place from which he can easily carry out his ministry either at the chair or at the altar.

Regarding the Liturgy of the Eucharist …

In the absence of a Deacon, after the Universal Prayer and while the Priest remains at the chair, the acolyte places the corporal, the purificator, the chalice, the pall, and the Missal on the altar. Then, if necessary, the acolyte assists the Priest in receiving the gifts of the people and, if appropriate, brings the bread and wine to the altar and hands them to the Priest. If incense is being used, the acolyte presents the thurible to the Priest and assists him while he incenses the offerings, the cross, and the altar. Then the acolyte incenses the Priest and the people.
A duly instituted acolyte, as an extraordinary minister, may, if necessary, assist the Priest in distributing Communion to the people.[Ministeria quaedam 6] If Communion is given under both kinds, in the absence of a Deacon, the acolyte administers the chalice to the communicants or holds the chalice if Communion is given by intinction.
Likewise, after the distribution of Communion is complete, a duly instituted acolyte helps the Priest or Deacon to purify and arrange the sacred vessels. In the absence of a Deacon, a duly instituted acolyte carries the sacred vessels to the credence table and there purifies them, wipes them, and arranges them as usual.
After the celebration of Mass, the acolyte and other ministers return together with the Deacon and the Priest in procession to the sacristy, in the same manner and in the same order in which they entered.

Your continued prayers and support during this process are greatly appreciated. We are sure that we would not be able to continue without them.

Here are pictures of the Ordination and blessings after the Mass.

Those who are about to be ordained are prayed over by Archbishop Gomez.

Archbishop Gomez addresses those who are going to be ordained as well as all of those present during his homily.

Those who are going to be ordained lie down facing the altar while the Litany of the Saints is sung.

Each Deacon is ordained by the laying on of hands by Archbishop Gomez.

The newly ordained Deacons are vested by their spouses and pastors.

The newly ordained are congratulated by the Archbishop and others present.

The newly ordained receive their copy of the Gospels.

The spouses of the newly ordained Deacons receive a standing ovation by all present.

We have completed our two quizzes for the year and will have our oral exam for this year on June 13^th.

Our last class will be held at St. Louis of France in La Puente on June 20^th and we will officially have completed our third year of formation and have two years remaining.

Your continued prayers and support during this process are greatly appreciated. We are sure that we would not be able to continue without the generosity of all those support this journey.

After Vatican II, Pope Paul VI, promulgated a new Roman Breviary referred to as the LOH. This defined Major and minor hours as follows: Office of the Readings (formally Martins) major hour, Lauds or Morning Prayer – major hour, Daytime prayer which can include any or all of Terce, Sext, and / or None, Vespers or Evening Prayer – major hour and Compline or Night Prayer. Lauds and Vespers are prayed by the diaconate.

These prayers follow the Jewish practice of praying at specific times and by the 5^th century had evolved into seven offices (or times of day): Martins (during the night), Lauds (Dawn or 3 a.), Prime (6 a), Terce (9 a), Sext (noon), None (3 p) Vespers (6 p) and Compline (9 p). The arrangement has been attributed to Saint Benedict.

The LOH utilized by the diaconate are the four volume set. There is also a single volume (Book of Christian Prayer) as well as many on-line versions and applications (IBreviary, Laudate and Divine Office to name a few (Note: the on-line version or Apps have many more items that just the LOH). In order to utilize either of the hard copy versions, there is a guide (Saint Joseph Guide for Liturgy of the Hours or Christian Prayer) that explains which prayers, readings and responses are used on a given day. This also includes Holy Days and Memorials as well as the optional Saints of the day. The one volume and four volume sets are available in the Holy Family Book Store as well as both guides.

The LOH is not just a prayer for those in diaconate formation or the seminary. It is not just for those who have been ordained or taken vows. The LOH is for everyone and can be prayed by everyone. In fact, it is prayed each weekday at 7:20 am and 7:30 am on Saturday’s and Holidays at Holy Family Church in South Pasadena.

On May 23^rd, we continued our journey …

On November 26, 2013 we lost one of our classmates and dear friends, Tess Francisco. As classes were drawing to a close last year we gathered at Tess’ grave to pray the Liturgy of the Hours. We did the same last Saturday. Ding, Tess’ husband led the prayer. It was a beautiful and tear filled service, remembering the joy and light that Tess brought to our Class, her family and her Community. We miss her smiles, her prayerful spirit and her warmth, but know that she journey with us each day, listening to our prayers and interceding on our behalf. Even though we have been praying the LOH for the past 2 ½ years, sometimes, it is more pray filled and reflective than others. Saturday was one of those days as we remembered our friend, our sister, our St. Tess.

This class we had a guest speaker, Fr. Jack Brennan, from St. John’s Seminary, presented Ecclesiology and Models of the Church.Of the many things that Fr. Jack discussed, the one item that struck us the most was his discussion of what a Church mystery is. We were always under the impression that a mystery in the Church was something that we could not understand. We were incorrect. Rather, a mystery is something that we cannot completely understand.

If we look at any of the mysteries of the Church, we can see that our understanding of them has increased over the years and decades, even centuries. The works of Church doctors and theologians have provided and continue to provide us with additional understanding of the many mysteries of the Church. We can in fact say, without any hesitation, that we, as a Church, have a greater understanding of the mystery of the Blessed Trinity than we did 1500 years ago. 1500 years from now, this understanding will have increased even more. Even though our understanding continues to increase, we do not and never will have a complete understanding of this or any other Church mystery.

January 31, 2015 As part of this year’s diaconate formation each of the couples in St. Elizabeth Ann Seton group have to present a twenty-minute presentation on one of several spiritualities during the year. Examples can include Franciscan, Benedictine, or even Tiaze’. The purpose of these are to allow the class to become familiar with the different types of spiritualities that exist and some of the aspects of each presented.

We selected Taize’ because we have attended a number of Taize’ prayer services and wanted to learn more about the workings of the service.

Taize’ was started in the 1940’s in Taize’ France by Brother Schutz. The community started with seven total and were ecumenical in nature. In the 1960’s they began to invite youth to Taize’ for retreats and now can have up to 6000 attendees a week. Their unique style of prayer services and music, like Ubi Caritas, are now conducted worldwide at a variety of Christian Churches. The impact of Taize’ is amazing when you consider that the community members numbers less than 130 worldwide.

We supplied the class with a brief outline about the origins of Taize, the current membership, as well an outline of the day’s activities for those attending the retreats. Upon completion of the presentations we answered questions and discussed the benefits of this wonderful spirituality community and services.

Additional information about Taize’ Spirituality can be found at the following:

A Community Called Taize’” by Jason Brian Santos ISBN 978-0-8308-3525-6
“The Rule of Taize’ in French and English” By Brother Roger, ISBN 978-1-61261-305-5
English Website http://taize.fr/en
Information on how to visit http://taize.fr/en_article78.html
MP3 and Podcasts http://taize.fr/en_article681.html

We continue to be grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

We are continually humbled by the generosity of the Holy Family community. We asked for jackets and hygiene items and what an amazing response. The looks of those who were the recipients of your generosity were in awe. “How could someone who doesn’t even know me be so thoughtful?” A “thank-you” cannot begin to express the smiles and hugs that were received on your behalf, but for now, it will have to do. We continue to pray for blessings on this community. A community that does more than listen to the Gospels, it lives them.

This photo is a small sample of the items that were received as part of the “Jacket Collection” that took place at Holy Family Parish, South Pasadena as well as eleven other Parishes in the Archdiocese. Those in the Elizabeth Ann Seton Diaconate formation class, as part of their homeless project, let those in their individual Parishes know about the needs of the homeless. The individual response that was made to this “cry of the poor” was overwhelming.

This event was sponsored by Onelife LA and took place at St. John Vianney Parish in Hacienda Heights. During this specific day, meals were prepared for over 200 homeless, hot showers as well as clothing and assorted hygiene items were made available. After dinner, a warm place to sleep was provided as well as a sack lunch was ready to take when they awoke.

One of our classmates summed it up this way, “We were allowed to be a bridge between our community and the homeless.”

This week we were at Alemany High School. Our morning was a guest speaker from St. John’s Seminary, Fr. Anthony Lee, on the topic of Christology.

Hi talk focused around three questions asked by Jesus:

Who do you say that I am?
What do you want me to do for you?
Do you love me?

The second question, “What do you want me to do for you?” was what Jesus asked Bartimaeus, the blind man outside of Jericho. His answer, “I want to see!”

Sight is not just something that is asked for just once, as in the case of Bartimaeus. Rather, each day we need to request sight. This sight is for what God wants us to see. This can be a change in the direction of our life, which might be scary, a neighbor or a stranger who needs help, or some other change that we can initiate in our own lives or in someone’s who will never know what we have done for them. Sight to see Jesus in everyone we meet.

Sight, to see someone who is sleeping under a bridge or on the street, to be able to offer them clothing or a blanket to keep them warm or maybe a hot meal to eat. Something as simple as a bottle of water can change the perspective of a person in need.

Sight to know that we will see someone at an off ramp who will have with a sign saying “Hungry”. Having a lunch of nonperishable items (easy open meat, crackers, cookies, a bottle of water, and a plastic fork). Sight to be able to hand this lunch, with a smile, to someone in need. Sight to prepare another one ready as soon as you get home so it will within reach when necessary.

Sight to be able to hold the door open for someone or maybe offer to return their shopping cart and to be able to smile while doing it, witnessing the opportunities that God has placed before us and answering his call.

Sight to see Jesus in all and then act, stepping out of our comfort zone, knowing that God has once again called upon us to act without question. To do His Will and make our lives richer with compassion and grace.

We continue to be grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

This week we were at American Martyrs Parish in Manhattan Beach where all in Diaconate formation met the new Director of Diaconate Formation, Deacon David Estrada and his wife Rita.

Deacon David is a native Californian born and raised in the Los Angeles area. He has been married to his wife Rita for 41 years, and has three grown children and four grandchildren. Ordained a Deacon in 1997, he is currently assigned to St. Benedict Church in Montebello. He has held a variety of positions within the Archdiocesan Offices, most recently as Executive Director, Office of Synod Implementation and Stewardship, retiring in early 2013. He attended the local diocesan seminaries and other schools, receiving degrees from St. John’s Seminary and the University of Southern California. He is currently a doctoral candidate at the Graduate Theological Institute where he is pursuing a Doctor of Ministry Degree.

We welcome Deacon David and his wife Rita and look forward to working with them through the remainder of our Diaconate Formation.

Your Help is needed!

As part of our Diaconate Formation, we, along with the rest of our classmates, are collecting Adult (male or female) size jackets (new or gently used) for the homeless. We are also collecting socks and underwear (both men & women), Chap Stick, cough drops, throat lozenges, hygiene products, and anti-bacterial hand sanitizer.

These items will be collected through January 23^rd with their distribution planned for January 24^th. Jackets and the other items may either be dropped off at the Holy Family Pastoral Center any time prior to January 24^th or to the Welcome Center on January 11^th.

December 13, 2014 we continued our third of five years journey in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class.

As part of this year’s formation, each person is to provide a 10 minute witness talk. Ten minutes to explain how you and your spirituality ended up where you are now.

Witness talks to this point have included some of the following topics:

Childhood, how my life was formed by those who raised me.
The impact of meeting my spouse.
How my career(s) brought me closer or took me farther from God.
My life before I was a Catholic.
The role drugs and alcohol had on my life.
How my children / grandchildren helped me to see God in the world.
The impact of a specific priest, religious, friend or parish.
The Diaconate application, acceptance, and the journey till now.

We have not given our talks yet. Ours are scheduled for March and April of next year.

The one thing that we know that we will say is that, this journey, till now has been amazing! Even if it had ended with us not being accepted into the program or ends without ordination, we would not have changed a thing and have no regrets. Our lives have been and continue to be enriched far beyond what we could have ever imagined.

So, at the end of our lives, will we be standing before our creator and given ten minutes to explain our life and how we ended up here?

We continue to be grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

Our best wishes and continued blessings to you as we welcome 2015 and continued health, happiness and prosperity.

This week we discussed what ordinary 21^st century images and experiences would Jesus use if he was teaching in parables today? How might they vary when used in different cultures, generations and socioeconomic classes? Below are some of the responses we heard and discussed in class about this topic.

Unlike in the time of Jesus, there were limited job types and experiences, today we can see not only a myriad of these locally, but those all over the world. There are still common jobs that seem to transcend most cultures: Teacher, Country Leader (President, Queen or King, etc.), Spiritual Leader (Priest, Rabbi, Shaman, Imam, etc.), Businessperson, Firefighter, Police Officer, and Astronaut, Pilot / Engineer (Airplane, Spacecraft, Boat, Train, etc.) to list a few. You could also list a few specific individuals: Pope Francis, Mother Theresa, Putin of Russia and Kim in North Korea.

Images could include travel: everything from walking or by bike to car, train, jet or even rocket, homelessness and all those associated with it, Medicine: everything from cures to Ebola, Grocery Shopping, Vacations, and Watching TV.

In terms of experiences, we could see the following as possibilities: bullying, On-line Communities (Facebook, LinkedIn, etc.), Racial Tensions, Terrorists, Immigration, and Health Care.

When it comes to different cultures, generations and socioeconomic classes, there are very few parables that would reach everyone today. Usage of technology would appeal to a primarily younger audience but could be lost on older members of society as well as those less “techno savvy”. A parable about someone who was homeless and hungry may be understood by everyone (in the mind) while it misses in the heart for those who have not experienced it or had any contact with that socioeconomic group. Cultural aspects, at a basic level, could be met, to some degree. Parables about rich and poor, helping others, and the love of a parent could cross cultural boundaries. There are, however, distinct aspects in most cultures. An example may be very suitable for one group while almost considered profane with another group.

With the Internet there is such a wide variety of platforms, we believe Jesus would use all media to get his message out. While still using parables, they would be in current images and context. He would use the image of the poor to help all to understand that hardship exists all over the world, that with all of us there is hope and love that can be eased with the help of all those who inhabit our society. With the lightning speed of Twitter and Instagram, Jesus could reach millions of followers, taking his story of a woman with a medical condition and his healing touch would spread like wildfire. For those places in the world that do not have access to technology word of mouth would be the only way to reach out to these individuals, however with the ease of travel and the work of missionaries all over the world, the stories of Jesus and his healing, grace and love would reach all corners of the planet.

We continue to be grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

On Saturday, November 1, 2014, we continued our third of five years in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class.

Fr. Steve Thoma presented on Vigil planning and what to keep in mind when preparing and conducting a Vigil.

The key item that hit home was planning of time. A vigil is usually an hour, more or less in duration. It is helpful to plan to be there an hour before it starts and to stay with the family an hour or longer after the service. If one does not have this amount of time to dedicate to the Vigil and those involved, one should not accept the responsibility of conducting it. This amount of time is outside any time that one needs to prepare the Vigil service itself.

The reason that this hit home was that this week was a very time crunched week. Family, work, doctor appointments, Halloween costumes to make, and the All Souls Vigil to help prepare, set up, conduct and clean up, as well as preparation of food that would be taken to the potluck for Saturday lunch. Also included is the home work that was due by 8 am on Saturday, November 1, which included a page of reflection, also the Growth Contract Form each of us were required to submit. Needless to say real life had built up where there was not enough time to attend to everything and something fell through the cracks. We were faced with deadlines and one was unable to be met. We made a decision to ask for more time and thankfully that request was granted.

We need to learn to give those items, like a Vigil, a hard block of time. This means that we should not schedule anything near it which is outside of our control and could impact our being able to attend to our responsibilities.

There was a doctor’s appointment scheduled for 4 – 5 pm on Tuesday that we both needed to attend. The appointment started 30 minutes late. This ended up putting Jay at the All Souls Vigil at 5:45 and Candy at 6:15. We both should have arrived by 5:15 pm.

There are those things we are taught. Some lessons are a reminder that we are unable to do it all. Sometimes those lessons just re-enforce by what has happened earlier in the week, there are only so many hours in the day and when those hours are used up, for whatever reason, nothing else can occupy them.

Our next class will be at Incarnation Parish, in Glendale. Our class will receive the Rite of Reader and the class in year four will receive the Rite of Acolyte

We continue to be grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

October 18, 2014 During this class we discussed our papers about the article, “The Four Faces of Jesus” by Virginia Smith as well as the introduction to the book “Who is Jesus? An Introduction to Christology” by Thomas P. Rausch.

As we prepare for each class we usually have a reading assignment. When we read something for class, we produce a one page paper that contains three or four parts:

What did I learn? (Intellectual Component)

This is 5 – 10 complete ideas and how they are important to the topic.

How was I nourished? (Spiritual Component)

In this section we reflect and explain how the reading makes us a better person, a better Christian and better servant.

How does this help me or how can I apply it to my ministry? (Pastoral Component)

This section is where we explain how we are putting the reading into practice: in our family, in our work, in the community, etc.

Questions and Comments

This last part is optional, we try to think of something because there is always something new we can learn.

During this portion of the class everyone discussed briefly what aspects of the two readings touched them. To Jay, it was the concept of seeing Jesus as both God and man at the same time. The example used was a 3D picture. As you look at the picture you have a fuzzy view of the image. You also see aspects of the image that are red in color and others that are blue (i.e. God and man). When you look through your 3D glasses of faith, you see the image clearly and with depth. The separation cause by the blue and red and no longer there.

To Candy, it was the Jesus was the guerrilla fighter. Jesus came to remind the faithful of laws of God which had been forgotten. Jesus preached to the sinners, those who were on the margins, who were shunned by society, the sick and afflicted, those who were on the outer edges of society, who were a constant reminder that life is uncertain. Jesus challenged those in power, made them question his authority to question theirs. Jesus caused turmoil and unrest within the Sanhedrin and the Pharisees, bringing to light their customs and rituals and stances on society, that those who were on the fringe, the marginalized and who were shunned were exactly who he was sent to minister to and heal.

Our next class will be at Bishop Alemany High School in Mission Hills.

We continue to be grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

October 4, 2014 We continue our third of five years in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class. This was the first time during formation that both of us did not attend class together. Candy was out of town at her 40^th class reunion. The date for her reunion had been set prior to the formation schedule and she was one of the chairs.

Being at class without Candy was strange to say the least.

As we prayed Liturgy of the Hours in the morning and evening, the back row, where we usually sit, joined hands for the Lord’s Prayer, similar to Holy Family. Not unusual in our parish, but had never been done during LOH. Couples would join hands but not the row. Since Candy was not there, I was the bridge between two couples. Candy’s presence was felt during this time.

Her presence was felt during lunch as well. Even though she wasn’t going to be there, she prepared a main dish, a side, and a salad. I just had to set up the crock-pots and set them on the table to eat.

The reason for the discussion about prayer and food is that it bound us together even when we were apart. As a couple, we carry each other with us. When the other is not physically there, they are there through ones words and deeds.

Not all couples in the diaconate share the same ministries. By carrying each other in your heart, you both are sharing a ministry even though only one may be present.

We have talked about this before, but it really hit home today.

Our next class will be at Bishop Alemany High School in Mission Hills.

We are grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

On Saturday, September 20, 2014, we continued our third of five years in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class.

This class was the annual opening all group retreat for Diaconate Formation. The focus of this retreat was that of family. Family, as it relates to each of our personal families (i.e. small church community), the Diaconate, and the larger family including our parish and local communities as well as the larger Church. This also included the family of all those on Earth.

The entire Diaconate Formation was divided into some twenty-six families, which usually contained at least one member of each of the five class years. The day was spent looking at what it meant to be priest, prophet and king in relationship to the family. The discussion questions were based Encyclicals by John Paul II as well as the Synod of Bishops Message to Christian Families (October 24, 1980).

In looking at families, it was noted that they are always changing. This is true for Diaconate Formation as well. Each year, one class is ordained in June and in September, a new class of Aspirants join formation. This year, there was another change as well. Deacon Craig Siegman announced his retirement as the Director of Diaconate Formation during the summer. As part of this retreat, Deacon Craig and his wife, Ann Marie, were invited so that those present could say goodbye and to thank both of them for their eighteen years of involvement in Diaconate Formation. It was Deacon Craig that signed the letter informing the Krueger’s that Jay had been accepted into the program. Even though they will no longer be involved in the program on a formal basis, they said that they would still be available to answer questions and provide support when possible. Family is always there and always available.

Our next class will be at Bishop Alemany High School in Mission Hills.

We are grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

On Saturday, September 6, 2014 we started our third of five years in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class.

We were excited as we walked down the halls of Bishop Alemany High School trying to locate our new classroom. As we started to see our classmates, we knew we were near. We found out that an additional couple had joined the Spanish class. They were in the formation program previously, had taken a leave of absence, and now had returned. With each greeting came a warm hug and a bright smile. Like seeing someone, you had not seen in a while, that instant connection, time spent apart evaporates, once again together.

Our facilitator, Jenny Ocegueda-Reynosa, gave us a brief rundown of the various activities for the year. One of the techniques utilized this year is that the class will be divided into three small groups during parts of the homework discussions as well as the practicums for homilies and vigils. This will enable additional time for vigils and homilies as well as smaller group discussions pertaining to that class required homework. It was wonderful to meet in these small groups, each person having the opportunity to share what they had experienced and thought about the homework. The small group atmosphere presents us with an opportunity to share and discuss the homework, seeing the different insights of our fellow class members.

One of the activities that each member of the class will be doing is a witness talk. The purpose of this activity is to provide the class with a glimpse into your past and an explanation of how you were brought into the diaconate. At the end of the day, Jenny gave her witness talk. She talked about her childhood, how she came to the United States from Mexico, and how she ended up in southern California. She also discussed her spiritual background, education, and how she became a facilitator in Diaconate formation.

Our next class will be the opening year all group retreat in La Puente.

We are grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

Jay and Candy Krueger Diaconate Journey — Jay and Candy Krueger
Diaconate Journey

June 21, 2014 On Saturday, we completed our second of five years in diaconate formation as a part of the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton class. When you get to the end of this blog entry you will notice that we wasted no time in changing “Candidacy Year I, Diaconate Formation,” to “Candidacy Year II, Diaconate Formation”.

This year the Rite of Candidacy was received by our formation class, we learned about the New Testament, read and presented Papal Encyclicals, received lector and bereavement training, and conducted an exegesis exercise on a Bible reading that could be utilized during a funeral service.

Next year we will study Christology, Mariology, and Church History. In November, the Saint Elizabeth Ann Seton Formation Class will receive the Rite of Reader. There will be study and presentations on effective methods of evangelization, catechetics, and mission as well as formal presentations on homiletics and practicums throughout the year. There is also the study of Funeral Rites and practicums for Vigils and Committal Services. The homeless are the focus of our pastoral work for this year. Lastly, there are presentations and discussions on issues of Justice and Peace from a Biblical prospective.

During the summer, we, and many of our classmates will be busy with duties in our home parishes. We will also continue to meet with our Mentor Couple Deacon Joe and Lorraine Meritizerky. There are three couples in our class who are being mentored by this grace filled and wonderful Deacon Couple. There are also three books to read as well as six papers to write including a petition letter to Archbishop Gomez for the Rite of Reader.

We will keep in touch with our other classmates through e-mails, texting and phone calls, the bonds that have been established are such a blessing to us, we will miss our bi-weekly meeting together but we know that in September, we will pick up exactly where we left off.

We are grateful for your support and prayers as we continue this amazing journey.

June 14, 2014 This week our class was in Tujunga at Our Lady of Lourdes for an all-day end of year, all group retreat. Our last class will be in La Puente. Our retreat was conducted by Deacon Matt Dulka. He is the Director of the Western Region for the Maryknoll Fathers & Brothers.

The focus of this retreat was not only what it meant to be a deacon or deacon couple, but what it also meant to be a missionary disciple of Christ.

Deacon Matt covered what Christ calls us to be with the different gifts from God. We, at our Baptism, become a disciple of Christ. Being this disciple is not one who is to come to worship in their local church and then go home. Rather, as a disciple of Christ, we are called to “Go Forth”. We are to take our faith, and step outside of our comfort zone of our home parish, and witness to Christ in all aspects of our life. Witness where we work, shop, at home, with our friends or even go to school.

Deacon Matt quoted Pope Francis who said, “I prefer a church which is bruised, hurting and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security.”

Not only do we need to witness to Christ all of the time, we need to be Christ’s presence to those who may not know Him. These could be the poor, the homeless, those on the margins. We are baptized in the water of forgiveness to go forth and bring that forgiveness and spirit of Christ to those who do not know the love of our God, those who have seen that love but no longer see it in their lives. As a child of God we are all loved by God, it is through those who witness and share that love that brings those on the margins closer to God’s love, to see the face of Jesus in all who serve.

Going forth, we witness Christ not only by helping those on the margins, but also by seeing Christ in each of them. We respect them. We listen to them. We support them by whatever means we can, whether it is time, treasure or talent, we are inspired to help those who need to see the love of our Creator and know he is alive in us all.

When you look back at the life of Christ, you see that he did not just hang around the Synagogue and preach. He dined with sinners. He helped the sick. He visited the outcast. If Jesus did this during His life, how could He not expect any less from all of us. To serve is to help, to do what Jesus did, to step out of our comfort zone and be the hands and feet of Christ.

Therefore, go forth!

May 31, 2014 This week our class was in Dominquez Hills. Our two remaining classes will be a closing all group retreat in Tujunga and our last class in La Puente. This class was conducted by Fr. Frank Ferrante Myers, C.M.F., and Lillian Wood and was on Myers – Briggs Personality and Human Development.

We had read information about Myers – Briggs as part of homework preparation and attempted to determine our personality types. We started with this and spent most of the morning and some of the afternoon on this. M-B covers orientation of energy (extraversion or introversion), perception (sensing or intuition), judging (thinking or feeling) and orientation to outward life (judgment or perception).

The purpose of this training was not only to help us determine our personality type but also to understand the traits of the other types. It was so interesting how our group was divided between Extroverts and Introverts, just about every couple had one of each, while there were only two couples that were the same. Each couple brought a multitude of strengths, which enhanced the individual as well as the couple.

The exercise we did in the afternoon was to design a prayer service (memorial, reconciliation, post retreat or multi-cultural) and to use our knowledge of the various personality types, to design a service that had components that would appeal to each type. We can say from our experience at this was a little more difficult than we had imagined. When taking into account the various personality traits and the different views of those who will participate in the different services, we focused on what would appeal to as many participants as possible. Each group set up the service for their particular topic, each service was to focus on the topic, however, still appeal to all those attending, with music, scripture, reflections and fellowship. Inviting the Spirit into our midst, listening to suggestions and ideas, giving each person in the group an opportunity to participate and contribute.

At the end of the day, each of the four teams presented the format of their service as well as the specific aspect that would appeal to each personality type. With this knowledge, all were able to design a service that would be able, to some degree, to appeal to all.

May 17, 2014 This week was our last class at Alemany High School for this year. Our three remaining classes will be in Dominquez Hills, Tujunga, and La Puente. We had a presentation on the encyclical Centessimus Annus written by Saint John Paul II as well as discussed St. Paul’s letter to the Ephesians. The most important time in class came when we prayed evening prayer.

If you have read our blog this year, you remember that we lost one of our classmates in December last year. Our sister Tess is interred at the San Fernando Mission Catholic Cemetery, right next to where we were having class, Alemany High School. Ding, Tess’s husband, was the presider for evening prayer. In our previous class, it was decided that we would have evening prayer at Tess’s gravesite.

Our evening prayer was a little more solemn and heartfelt than usual. The opening hymn was sung with power and reverence. Ding’s reflection on the reading was from deep inside of him. When it came time to say the Lord’s Prayer, we joined hands and prayed. At the end of evening prayer we each, in turn, went up to Ding and gave him a hug and then left in teary silence.

This week even though we had a class, we are going to discuss our after class activity. One of the requirements for this year is to have a group activity. Our class elected to go to the Mother Gertrude Balthazar Home, which is a retirement community run by the Franciscan Sisters, and conduct the Stations of the Cross for the residents.

The chapel at this home was very nice and we had about 20 residents attend the service. One of our group was the presider while the rest of us took turns each conducting a station. We also have a member of our class who plays the guitar and he led us in song at the end of each station.

We met with the residents both prior to and after the service and were able to provide them with bookmarks containing a prayer from Elizabeth Ann Seaton (our class namesake), the Our Father and the Hail Mary.

We saw, in those who attended, a very prayerful community. Some who attended had not been to any type of service since they had been at the home. Some had mobility issues. Many were experiencing physical and emotional pain. One of those how attended the service has a brother, Gary, who has cancer. We ask that you remember him and all of those suffering from cancer as well as those who are in any type pain, in your prayers.

Those who attended from the home were very thankful for the service and gave each of us a “thank-you” card.

When a service is given that is not one to one but many to many, we need to remember the uniqueness of each one there; of not just those who are attending the service, but those who are providing it as well. For it is in this uniqueness we are able to bring our gifts, our joys, and even our pain. It is in this uniqueness we are able to makes a community of Jesus Christ.

March 1, 2014 we continue our diaconate journey…

The focus of this week’s class was bereavement training, the second half of Paul’s letter to the Roman’s and a presentation on the encyclical Populorum Progressio, which is on the development of peoples.

This was our last class on bereavement and we discussed what it takes to be a member of a bereavement team and what the team does.

All parishes have an individual or team that helps families prepare for the last services for the one that they have lost. There are three services available: the vigil ~ Rosary, a funeral mass or service, and the internment service. Excluding the funeral mass, a deacon or a layperson may lead each of these services. There are very few parishes, like Holy Family, that has a bereavement team, which helps an individual deal with the grief experience after the loss of a loved one.

There are two distinct aspects of bereavement: first is helping with the funeral arrangements and, the second, helping those who are grieving.

A member of the bereavement team, as with all ministries, needs to be dependable. The team member also needs to be a good listener and, if possible, have empathy as one of their strengths. The bereavement process is filled with moments of ultimate sadness. There are so many details that must be attended too as the process of a funeral or prayer service, arranging for interment at a time when the loved ones are in the beginning stages of grief. Most will go through the motions in a fog, sadness and sorrow are all consuming.

The Holy Family bereavement ministry which Candy and Jay are two of the facilitators, offers the following services:

A 1 ½ hour class for 8 weeks to help individuals understand and cope with their grief. These sessions are called “In Remembrance of …” and are held twice a year. The different stages of grief are discussed and explored. The group share their stories as well as pictures of their lost loved ones. Each session builds upon the last, the small faith groups explore the different aspects of the topics and how the topic applies to their lives. There are heart stones that carry the name of a loved one, for a week the griever carries their heart stones, the following week the loved one give the sadness and sorrow to another member of the group so that they might carry the sorrow for a week. A letter to God or their loved one is written at the end of the sessions and are sent to Heaven in the form of smoke, to touch the spirit of the lost one and to be embrace by God.
A hour drop in session called “Care, Prayer, and in Remembrance of … (CPR)” held on the last Tuesday of every month (except December) starting at 6:30 p in the Pastoral Center, an open session that grievers can speak openly about hardships, sorrows, concerns.
A Memorial Service held in May and an All Souls Day Memorial Mass held the Second of November where the community of Holy Family joins together to remember the loved ones that have been lost during the year. The All Souls Day Mass welcomes members of the parish as well as their loved ones to join with others who come to remember their loved ones and joining together in fellowship of understanding and compassion.
An annual session called “Coping with the loss of a loved one during the holidays”. This session is offered in the middle of November. The Holidays are the most stressful and painful time for those who grieve because it is a time of family, when we draw together to celebrate the birth of our Savior Jesus and celebrate the gift of family. With a loss of a loved one there is that empty place at the table, that empty place in the living room on Christmas morning, the sense of loss is more defined because this time of year is filled with so many memories.
Recently “Quilting Bee for Bereavement” was held. This four session activity taught quilting while sharing grief. With the fellowship, instruction and construction each person attending learned the basics of quilting, but much more than this, all were able to share with those who shared their memories as well as their sorrow. The group learned that they were not alone in their sorrow and sadness, they learned that there is healing in sharing and being a part of a group that has common interests.

February 2014 we continue our diaconate journey…

The focus of this week’s class was bereavement training, the first half of Paul’s letter to the Roman’s and a presentation on the encyclical Pacem in Terris or Peace on Earth. Since we and another couple presented this encyclical, we would like to discuss this.

An encyclical, as defined by catholic culture, is “A papal document treating matters related to the general welfare of the Church, sent by the Pope to the bishops.

Used more frequently in modern times to express the mind and thoughts of the Pope to the people in the Catholic Faith. Although of themselves, the encyclicals are “not infallible” documents, encyclicals may (and generally do) contain pronouncements on faith and morals that are de facto infallible because they express the ordinary teaching of the Church. In any case, the faithful are to give the papal encyclicals their interior assent and external respect as statements of the Vicar of Christ.

An encyclical epistle is like an encyclical letter but addressed to part of the Church, that is, to the bishops and faithful of a particular area. Its contents may be doctrinal, moral, or disciplinary matters of universal significance, but may also commemorate some historical event or treat of conditions in a certain country or locality.”

Since 1435 there have 159 encyclicals. With the first being written by Pope Eugene IV in 1435 and the latest bring written by Pope Francis last year. Between 1846 and 1875 Pope Pius IX wrote 38 encyclicals; the most of any pope to date.

Peace on Earth was written in 1963, shortly after the Cuban Missile crisis by Pope John XXIII, the last of Pope John’s eight. “Peace will be only be an empty-sounding word unless it is based on the order founded on truth, built according to justice, integrated by charity and put into practice in freedom.”

Pope John also listed basic human rights. These are, “Man has the right to live. He has the right to bodily integrity and to the means necessary for the proper development of life, particularly food, clothing, shelter, medical care, rest, and, finally, the necessary social services. In consequence, he has the right to be looked after in the event of ill-health; disability stemming from his work; widowhood; old age; enforced unemployment; or whenever through no fault of his own he is deprived of the means of livelihood.”

Besides these basic other rights were also listed. The second section addressed the relationship between man and state. The third established the need for equality among nations with the last section talking about the greater need for relations between nations.

There is the need, said the pope, that when conflicts arise, they “should note be resolved by recourse to arms, but rather by negotiation.”

It was not found out until later that Pope John XXIII was a friend with Premier Khrushchev and through this friendship, the Cuban Missile Crisis would be solved.

We found that most encyclicals are not an easy read. They contain many quotes from many previous encyclicals as well as church doctors, such as St. Augustine. There are many commentaries that also exist about each encyclical and the commentaries are very helpful in one’s ability to understand what is being said.

All encyclicals are available on the Vatican website in both English and Latin. Here is the link to Pacem in Terris if you would like to read it on your own.

Although this document was written over fifty years ago, it is still very relevant today. A few weeks ago, Father John Dear, spoke at Holy Family. As Jay listened, he realized that many of the issues that Father John was talking about as concerns today, are similar to those concerns of Pope John XXIII.

Jay and Candy Krueger Diaconate Journey -Year 2 — Jay and Candy Krueger
Diaconate Journey -Year 2

February 2014

While the focus of this week’s class was lector training and the works of St. Paul, we would like to discuss an item that was just a few moments in length but had a great impact on the day.

This was the first lector training class that was held after the loss of our sister Tess. Sister Karen had put together a roster and was calling each of our names. As each of our names was called, we wondered if someone had told her about Tess’ death and that even though she was no longer with us, her husband Ding is continuing his journey.

Ding’s name was called. Then Tess’. Now came that awkward moment, where we let Sister know that Tess had passed away right after Thanksgiving. Sister Karen gave her apologies as well as her condolences, but the spirit of the entire room once again centered around Ding.

The calling of someone’s name who is no longer alive can sometimes take you back to the moment when you learned of their death. This can also happen when you receive a letter addressed to them, a phone call asking for them or just talking to a friend who does not know that they have died and asks you how they are doing. That moment in time when there is a silence, each person present looking to the grieving person, a sudden rush of sympathy, a want in your mind to reach out and protect, to surround them with shelter, to do your best to keep the pain and sorrow at bay.

In each case, this was not done with malice or forethought. It happened because the individual was unaware of your loss. The sorrow and embarrassment, that moment when you wish you could take back the words, to never cause pain to someone you know, but it is life, there are people in our lives that we see less frequently, weather it is a colleague or a fellow student, perhaps a shirt tail relative that lives a distance away.

So, how would respond if this happened to you? If you had been the one with the loss? What would it be like if you had asked how someone was doing, only to find out that they had died six weeks ago?

In either case, you need to be understanding of the situation. “I am sorry for your loss” or “I will remember you in my prayers” may be the best response one can come up with. “I understand, you didn’t know” may be difficult for you to say. You may even feel tears starting to come. That sorrow that is still so close, still so real, comes flooding back and once again your spirit is crushed into sadness.

Grief is not something that comes and goes with ease. There are those moments that may draw you right back to the last time you saw a person alive. It is in these times that we can feel the closeness of the one we lost. A moment in time, especially happy ones, can ease the pain, can diminish the sorrow. We embrace those moments, because it is when our loved ones were most happy, when we shared the gift of the Spirit and the grace of our Beloved Savior.

January 18, 2014 we continue our diaconate journey…

At the end of today’s class, we will have completed half of the classes for this year. Or, to put it another way, we have only three and a half years to go. It reminded some of us of when we were younger, when that half of a year truly made a difference in your age. In March of this year, it will be three years since we started to discern and pray about the diaconate.

We continued with bereavement training this class and this is the topic of our blog.

The speaker today was Monsignor Liam Kidney, the Pastor of Corpus Christi Church in Pacific Palisades and who has been involved in bereavement ministry with Deacon Sam for over 25 years.

An aspect of bereavement that we discussed was the glass that everyone’s sees his or her life through. Imagine, when you are born, that there is a piece of glass that you see the world through. It starts out as very clean and unobstructed view. So clean, that you have to touch it to make sure that it is actually there. As you go through your life, things splat on the glass. Good things, bad things, and neutral things. Everything we experience will affect the way we approach a situation and people, some are positive some are negative, even those life lessons that do not seem to leave an impression can affect all of us in different. Not all of us leave an event with the same impression, we each see the event differently because of our individual life experiences. Sometimes there is a sandstorm that will etch the glass in such a way that it will never be as clean as it was when you were born. Turbulent and traumatic events will mar the glass and leave visible marks, happy and joyous events will leave the same marks, the imprints on our glass makes us who we are at this moment.

Therefore, as you go through life, you look through your glass. This is how you see the world and others.

When you meet someone, they are looking through their glass as you looking through yours. No two people see the world in the same way. Each glass has been exposed to their unique experiences. Experiences can be family, faith and flag of origin. Family experiences are those that come to you not only through your immediate family, but those through your extended family and community where you were raised. Faith experiences are those that come to you through your interaction with God. Flag experiences are those from not only your country but also the culture or cultures of that country.

The experiences on your glass are something that you have to remember as you are working in the bereavement ministry. Each person’s approach to death is unique. How you, a bereavement minister, will be perceived is unique to those you encounter during their time of grief and sorrow.

Your glass and the glass of others impact not only bereavement, but all aspects of your life.

November 16, 2013 we continue our diaconate journey…

This class contained something that we did not expect. Since we came together as a group a year and a half ago, we have shared who we are spiritually, emotionally, and personally. Last year as we went through the 19^th annotation of the Ignatian Retreat we developed who we are spiritually and shared our growth with our Spiritual Directors and each other in our small faith groups.

We would say that we are a very, very close group. We have shared the birth of grandchildren, the loss of parents, and the joy of our children taking first communion, being confirmed, becoming engaged and married.

As part of our bereavement training, we are learning how to care for someone after the loss of a family member or friend. This is a time when most individuals are at their most vulnerable point. The ability to share empathy, a gift from God, helps those who journey through grief to cope with the different stages of grieving and sorrow.

One of our classmates has survived two different bouts with cancer and had been cancer free for over five years. As we started class this year, she had been noticing severe pain in her lower back, which was thought to be sciatica. The results of numerous treatments were all unsuccessful. She was only able to attend the Rite of Candidacy by laying down for most of the service.

At our class on Saturday, we were informed that cancer had reappeared and was in her lower back as well as in both lungs. The prognosis is not good and given only a few months to live. This news was both shocking and humbling, the entire class poured out the love and support of friends who have been around a lifetime. Tears flowed; words of encouragement and support were repeated time and time again. The hugs were so freely given; the prayers and spoken words of support were offered and accepted. We have learned that as a community of faith there is nothing we cannot get through together, that life is cherished and embraced with loving acceptance, that God’s will be done.

Her husband said that her faith is strong and she is an inspiration to him, God continues to bless her and the family each and every day and her spirit keeps everyone raised up. She told him that just because she was ill, he should not expect to use it as an excuse not to attend his diaconate class.

We ask that you remember our sister Tess and her husband and their family in your prayers.

Please keep us especially in your prayers on November 2, 2013 as all the members of the St. Elizabeth Ann Seaton Class will attend the Rite of Candidacy at Alemany High School in Mission Hill’s chapel joined by family and the other Diaconate Formation Classes. Bishop Alexander Salazar, Episcopal Vicar of the San Pedro Region will be the presider.

October 17, 2013 We continue our diaconate journey…

This class covered Bereavement Training through Deacon Sam Frias of Catholic Cemeteries and lector training through Sr. Karen Collier, the Parish Life Director of St. Agatha’s Church in Los Angeles.

The Bereavement Training included the discussion lead by Michelle Hernandez who is the director of Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation SSLF.ORG, and Myra from Valley’s Best Hospice in Burbank.

We are part of the Bereavement Ministry at Holy Family Church; however we have not had the opportunity to participate in the courses offered by Catholic Cemeteries. Bereavement is one of the ministries of a deacon couple; it is included as a part of the training received during the five years of formation. As a Deacon Couple, we may be called upon to conduct a vigil or graveside service as well as the funeral service itself. Each Deacon Couple needs to be prepared to conduct these services, as well as consult and console the grieving family.

The focus of this blog is on the Bereavement Training that we received from Michelle Hernandez.

Michelle’s story is that of a mid-thirties wife, a personal trainer, mother of three and a devoted Catholic. Her husband, Phil, was the track coach at a local school. She was grateful for where God had led her in her life but was unprepared for what would happen. One evening, as she was preparing dinner, Phil had gone out for his usual bike ride. A short time later she received a phone call that Phil had been in a bike accident. She thought that he had fallen or something and have some scrapes, bumps and bruises and that his bike may be a little worse for wear.

She arrived at the same time as the ambulance. Phil was placed in back and she rode in the front of the ambulance with the driver as the paramedic continued to issue medical care to Phil. When they arrived at the hospital, Phil was taken inside. One of the EMT’s blocked the passenger side door so Michelle couldn’t exit right away. The door was then opened and the EMT stated, “I’m not very good at this type of thing. Michelle’s first response was “Well then please find someone who can assist my husband with his injuries”. The EMT then said “I am sorry to tell you that your husband is dead.”

Michelle went into the hospital and stood at the foot of Phil’s bed, waiting for the doctor, to pronounce Phil’s death. While she stood there, numb from the shock, her mind racing and thoughts clouded by the events that had just happened, Michelle’s first thought were to the only prayer that came into her thoughts; the Hail Mary. Michelle stood at the foot of Phil’s bed and repeated it over and over and over, tears streaming down her face, looking at her beloved husband, the man who was her husband, her friend, her confidant, repeating “Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus…”

Michelle was taken inside so that she could say goodbye to Phil. She said that she was in a fog initially, but her faith helped her to get through this time. She was uncertain why her wonderful life had taken this turn and wasn’t sure what God had planned for her. Her faith had been rocked, Michelle searched to put reason for the events that had changed her life in a single phone call, why hadn’t she talked Phil out of his ride, why hadn’t she asked him to stay and help her with dinner, why did he have to ride in the direction he did? Why? Why? Why?

There did not seem to be any answers, only more questions. Michelle said that she was angry, that her faith had been shaken and she was angry that God would do this to her, to Phil, to their family. Michelle could only see the road before her, filled with sadness and uncertainty, how could she raise three children by herself, how would things work out, and what did God have in store after this tragedy? Michelle’s faith was restored, she asked God for help and direction, she knew in her heart that with God’s grace that her life would be enriched with blessings. It was not easy and she struggled with everyday life, but turned to God and his grace when times were dark and troubled.

Being a young widow is a unique situation. When she would tell someone that she was a widow, people would back up, like she had some type of contagious disease. Even close friends would tell her the she was young, that she would recover and move on, that she had so much to live for. It was as if Phil was only a memory now, photos that would note times in their happy lives, but no longer in her everyday life.

Last week we discussed some of the things that people say, meaning well, but end up hurting. Michelle’s experience was no difference. The one thing that people said that was different was, “Oh, you’re young, you find another husband.”

When Phil died, an empty space was created in Michelle soul. A space that had been occupied by Phil, but now held only memories of him. With the death of a loved one, this is what happens to those who remain, those who have memories and moments and times together. Michelle said what she found interesting is that people didn’t have any problem with you talking about your deceased parents or grandparents. However, when a spouse dies this is a whole different story.

The point of what Michelle shared with us is that when you lose a loved one, the space inside you that was theirs, remains empty and will never be refilled by another. Along with this empty space, after the initial loss, there seems to be a constant drum beat that only you can hear; a sound that reminds you of your loss, seeing the time, knowing they would be doing this or going there, the trigger of a smell or a song or a flower, bring a memory that washes over you like a flood. Each person in our lives leaves a special foot print on our hearts and minds, creating that space in our souls, that special place that only they can exist in.

Michelle has remarried another wonderful Catholic man. Although he is superb, he will never be able to fill the void left by Phil. A space that was Phil’s alone.

What Michelle was able to do was to take her grief and turn it into a productive activity. She founded “Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation”. A whole community is available to you – people who can’t believe that the word “widowed” applies to them either.

Today’s class covered the Gospel according to Mark, Catholic Social Justice and Bereavement Training through Deacon Sam Frias of Catholic Cemeteries. This session was facilitated by Rev. Susan Copeland.

Although we are part of the Bereavement Ministry at Holy Family, we have not had the opportunity to participate in the courses offered by Catholic Cemeteries. Bereavement is part of the ministries of the deacon couple; it is included as a part of the training received during the five years of formation.

The focus of this blog will be on the Bereavement Training that we received.

Many people want to know what to say and do for someone when they have a death in their family. In the initial period after the death, the best thing you can do is to offer to be with them. You may not need to say anything. You may not need to do anything outside of a possible hug. They may not say anything. You may just sit in the presence of each other. You, as a friend and child of God, are there for them, this time is not to help, not to heal but to be present.

If there is a need to say something, DO NOT SAY, “I know how you feel, I lost my brother in a similar way.” You then go on and on and talk about your brother and how his death occurred, how it felt and the emotions that were present for you. Although you are trying to show you care, it comes off as just the opposite. You do not need to talk, you listen. Each loss is unique. It is unique in the way the individual passes. It is also unique for those who are grieving. If you feel like there is something that needs to be said, in a quiet and caring voice say, “I do not know how you feel right now. I want to let you know that I am here for you.” To extend your hand in friendship and love, to offer care and support, those are the things that are most needed when we mourn for the loss of a loved one.

So what can an individual do at a time of loss or in preparing for a loss? Look at the story of the individual and how they touched your life. Or, to quote Susan, “How the individual put honey on your heart.” By looking for those moments that had the most impact on you and when they had the impact, you keep the memory of the lost loved on strong and alive. There might have been an event that happened when you were young and you didn’t realize it impact on you until many years later.

The Bereavement Ministry is not for everyone, it is not a “feel good” ministry. The gifts that God has instilled in us are unique, we all have a strength that we draw upon for all works of God, however not all will be called to minster to those who grieve. As with all aspects of the diaconate, we need to be exposed to it. Even though it may not be your primary ministry, you will still be called to conduct a vigil or a graveside service. Each Deacon or Deacon Couple needs to be prepared.

It is always great to have an all group day and see the variety of people who are in the Diaconate program. The diversity of the program reflects that of the Church that will be served.

This was a retreat day. It opened with Liturgy of the Hours and ended with Mass.

The main focus of the retreat was on vocation and prayer. It was presented by Msgr. Lorenzo Miranda and Fr. Alex Aclan from the Office of the Vicar for Clergy.

Monsignor started with a discussion on vocation. It was not just about his journey to become a priest or the journey that we are on to become a deacon couple; it is also about our vocation to be called to be Christians.

As we go through our lives, there are specific points in our lives where we are called. It could be when we saw our grandmother pray the rosary, when we helped someone who was looking for something to eat, or other key moments in our lives.

We were asked to look back at our life and to see where God was calling us to our Christian vocation. For me, Jay, it was seeing my grandfather going to Mass on a daily basis, his eight years in the seminary and when Candy and I applied for the Diaconate.

For me, Candy, it was meeting Jay and seeing his faith and dedication to God, inspired by the faith of the people at Holy Family Church, feeling the power of God in community for the very first time and wanting to be a part of that community, converting to the Catholic Faith 17 years ago. To hear the calling of the Holy Spirit in a suggestion made to me and Jay and that guiding hand that would lead us to apply to the Diaconate.

Father Alex talked about personal prayer as well as the prayer of others. One of the moments he mentioned was that he had the Legion of Mary praying for him, by name, and his vocation to the priesthood (even though he had not entered the seminary yet).

We know the power of prayer. Our journey through the Diaconate would not be possible without the prayers and support of the Holy Family Community. You have no idea what it is like when someone you don’t know walks up to you and says, “I’m praying for you”. What a wonderful gift and blessing we are given each time this happens.

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Diaconate Journey -Year 2

Candy & Jay Krueger returned to their diaconate classes on September 7, 2013.

Hi,

Below is our latest blog journey. It covers not only our Saturday class, but our summer as well.

The summer was very active for us; homework assignments, meeting our Deacon journeying couple, Deacon Joe & Lorraine Mirzerski from St. Therese’s parish in Alhambra, and writing our candidacy letters. Jay has written to Archbishop Gomez asking that he be admitted as a candidate for the permanent diaconate. Candy has written her letter to Deacon Craig Siegman, the director of Diaconate formation, stating that Jay has her permission to enter into the program as a candidate.

We would like to briefly discuss our letter writing and our journeying couple.

First, the letters. We are pretty sure that someone may be asking, “Isn’t this a little late to be doing this?” As part of the formation for the diaconate, there are specific actions that are required. As part of the application process, both are required to sign the initial applications. Prior to candidacy, the letters above must be written. And, yes, they must be written in your own handwriting (printed or cursive). (Although the content is provided, it has been a long time since either of us has used a pen to write a letter.) Additional letters and requests for acceptance are required as you proceed through the program. One of the key aspects of the program is approval of the spouse. If, at any during the formation process, the spouse determines that being in the program is having a negative impact on their relationship or family, she can request that they leave the program.

Now, our journeying couple, Deacon Joe & Lorraine. As part of candidacy, you are assigned a journeying couple, who are mentors, friends and advisers. Although you can request a specific couple, the final decision is made by the diaconate formation staff.

We requested and received Deacon Joe & Lorraine as our journeying couple. There are a number of reasons that we requested them. The two main reasons are that they are from a parish close to Holy Family and they have in the past, and will continue in the future, to conduct vigil and graveside services for funerals held at Holy Family as well as baptisms. Some of you may have met them during one of their services.

The purpose of a journeying couple is to provide support to you during the remainder of your formation. They are your mentor and guide. They help bridge the gap between the formation aspects of the diaconate and what you will be doing in a parish. They are a sounding board and answer any question you may have.

We will officially become candidates on November 2^nd in Mission Hills, when we go through this Rite of Acceptance with Bishop Salazar.

Our second year of Diaconate training started on September 7, 2013 as we returned to Alemany High School.

This year we will focus on the New Testament, Lector & Bereavement training and selected Encyclicals.

Our focus will be on how our New Testament training will occur.

Training will not only be on the content of the New Testament, but to look at what it says to us about our faith and then be able to discuss it with others. That is to say, to be able to use our knowledge and reflections to be able to not only explain our faith to others, but to answer questions that someone may have about the Roman Catholic Church.

We would also be able to engage those who are not Catholic and discuss our beliefs. In a conversation like this, you start by listening to what the other person is saying and the point that is being made. Your response needs to be presented in a non-threatening manner and, when possible, start with points that you have in common. You are not trying to win an argument. What you are doing is sharing information with someone you respect and with the hope that they respect you. In this discussion we discussed the writings of Matthew, the similarities Matthews Gospel has with Mark and Luke’s Gospel, as well as the differences. To take a passage and look for the reasons why that passage was written and what our opinions were on how the passage might differ from the other two Gospels. While our class has a great deal in common, there is also a uniqueness to each of us, with life experiences, where in life one is, our understanding of the passage, each gave their personal view on the passage and the discussion was lively. We are encouraged to speak our minds, with respect, even though we might disagree on the subject matter. To be able to discuss our views on the various passages and texts in an open and honest discussion is so nourishing, it helps us to understand the different views, the different ways of approaching a topic and to be honest and understanding in a conversation when discussing the work of God.

On June 15th, we attended our last diaconate formation class for this year at Valyermo (aka St. Andrew’s Abbey) in the high desert near Palmdale.

OK, so this was our last meeting, what are we going to write? Fellowship is the answer.

When we are in a van for two hours or at an Abbey, there was time to talk and share with our fellow classmates. Yes, we know that we have completed our first year of formation together and are sure that there have been opportunities for fellowship before. We have talked during lunch and breaks. However, for the most part, the time for fellowship was very limited.

This was the end of our first formation year together. We were able to talk and share about where we were when we started this journey and where we are now. We did not end our first year together being glad that it had completed (well, we were a little glad), rather it was ended in prayer and then an hour drive home.

If anyone thinks that, we now get three months of leisure, we do not. Over the summer, we are to read and be able to discuss three Encyclicals as well as two chapters in our book on the New Testament.

We look forward to not being Aspirants, but being accepted as a Candidate Couple in Candidacy Year I. Although we will start the fall in the Candidacy Year I class (our second year in formation), we are not candidates. Jay will need to write (not types) a letter to the Archbishop requesting to be a permanent diaconate candidate. Once he receives approval from the Archbishop, he will be a candidate. Candy will need to write a letter to Deacon Craig, the Head of Deaconate Formation, saying that she supports Jay in his request for candidacy.

We will become formal candidates on November 2^nd in Mission Hills, when we go through this Rite of Acceptance with Bishop Salazar.

This year could not have been possible without the support and prayers of our Holy Family community for which we are extremely thankful!

Jay Krueger shares his thoughts as he attends the diaconate ordination at Our Lady of the Angels Cathedral on June 9th.

Although the ordination was not part of formation, it was the first time I’d seen someone that I knew be ordained as a Permanent Deacon. The ceremony was well attended, even with extra chairs, people were standing.

The aspect of the ceremony that always touches me is when the current Permanent Deacons, with their wives next to them, are the first to enter the Cathedral. As those who are about to be ordained enter, their wives are next to them as well. These, soon to be Deacons, start the service sitting with their families.

After their Ordination, each new Deacon is presented with a copy of the Gospels. He then, in turn, presents it to his wife.

Those who are serving for this ceremony are in their fourth year of Diaconate Formation and have received the rite of Acolyte.

The ceremony lasts around 3 hours. The newly ordained Deacons are put right to work assisting with the remaining portions of the Mass.

I was able to attend this ceremony with two other couples from the Aspirancy class, which made it all the more special.

We have only one class remaining this year. The last class will be held at Valyermo (aka St. Andrew’s Abby) in the high desert near Palmdale.

We look forward to no longer being Aspirants, but being accepted as a Candidate Couple in Candidacy Year I. Even though we will start the fall in the Candidacy Year I class (our second year in formation), we will not be considered candidates until I hand- write (not type) a letter to the Archbishop requesting admittance to candidacy and am accepted into the program. Candy must hand- write a letter to Deacon Craig, Head of Diaconate Formation, saying that she supports me in my request for candidacy. We will become formal candidates on November 2^nd in Mission Hills, when we go through this rite with Bishop Salazar.

On June 1st, we attended our diaconate formation class at the St. Louis of France in La Puente.

This was our last all group meeting. The day consisted of the liturgy of the hours, a retreat and a closing prayer service. It was also the last time that we will see our Spanish classmates until the fall. The liturgy of the hours was very special because the Oscar Romero class was present. It is this class that will be ordained to the permanent diaconate on next Saturday, June 8^th. (Each class is given the name of a Saint or other individual who represents the role of a deacon couple).

With all of these things happening, we decided to discuss what happened after lunch.

One of the lead facilitators for Diaconate Formation, Deacon Valentin, has been diagnosed with stage four stomach Cancer on April 11^th. The doctor gave him two weeks to live. When he spoke to us today (more than two weeks after his diagnoses), he said that when the doctor told him that he only had two weeks to live, he was at peace with it. He had his belief in God and that was good enough. He was OK with whatever plan God had for him, that he had asked God for guidance and hope and help, explaining that he asked God for exactly what he wanted, to trust in his faith and to have his family around him during this time. His conviction and strength shined so radiantly to all in attendance, all who he had met with him in personal on their journey into the diaconate whether in their interview process or as a facilitator for the Spanish speaking Candidates, love, compassion and hope surrounded Deacon Valentin, along with a great many well wishes and prayers that continue to stream to for daily.

One of the last parts of the 19^th annotation is where we surrender to God and in our humility we accept the life that we have. Deacon Valentin really helped us to understand this. He is at peace.

We have only one class remaining this year. Our last class will be held at Valyermo (aka St. Andrew’s Abby) in the high desert near Palmdale.

We look forward to no longer being Aspirants, but being accepted as a Candidate Couple in Candidacy Year I. Even though we will start the fall in the Candidacy Year I class (our second year in formation), we will not be considered candidates until Jay writes (not types) a letter to the Archbishop requesting admittance to candidacy and is accepted into the program and Candy writes a letter to Deacon Craig, the Head of Deaconate Formation, saying that she supports Jay in his request for candidacy. We will become formal candidates on November 2^nd in Mission Hills, when we go through this rite with Bishop Salazar.

May 18th was our last Spiritual Direction and the turning in of our last homework as Deacon Aspirants. We also spent the afternoon with Jerry Frumento who is a passionate instructor on the Old Testament.

Our last Spiritual Direction marked the completion of the 19^th Annotation of the St. Ignatian Spiritual Exercises. This, like so many other aspects of this year seemed so far away last September. Each member of the Aspirancy Diaconate group met with their Spiritual Director, which was both a blessing and tearful moment, many of the Spiritual Directors had accompanied their counterpart for the entire year, sharing faith, spiritual guidance and the lessons of the 19^th Annotation in our daily lives.

Candy’s Spiritual Director, Anny, has been with her since the very first session. The journey they have shared has been both moving and faith filled. From the birth of our Savior, through his early life and then into his adult ministry, the lessons learned by Candy were amazing, seeing the growth in understanding of the gifts that were given by Jesus as well as the human side of him, helped Candy to see the true life, dedication and sacrifice that Our Lord and Savior so freely gave to this world. It was a very tearful ending to an amazing journey, but as with all things, on this part of the journey a lifelong friend has been found. The Spiritual Directors through the 19^th Annotation are a true gift from God. We know that the new Aspirancy Class will find their Spiritual Directors as inspiring as we have.

Learning this Ignatian form of prayer has improved our prayer life more than we could have ever expected. The ability to use ones imagination in scripture is the most amazing aspect of this process. It allows you to see, hear, feel, smell, and taste the scripture. It provides the ability, to view all in scripture, even Jesus, as human. To place yourself into the reading, to follow and speak to those who came in contact with Jesus, to watch him work his miracles and to be part of the crowd or perhaps a Disciple, gave the scriptures a new level of understanding, to have the Holy Spirit guide your thoughts and emotions, to place yourself in that place, making the passage come alive in your mind.

We have only two classes remaining this year. One in La Puente, which will be an all class Retreat and our last class will be held at Valyermo (aka St. Andrew’s Abby) in the high desert near Palmdale.

We look forward to no longer being Aspirants, but being accepted as a Candidate Couple in Candidacy Year I.

Here is our latest Blog. We hope that what we have provided will have a similar impact to the reader as an experience that brought us to tears did. We deeply pray that the subject of Mental Illness will be discussed, education occur and action taken.

Our latest Diaconate class on April 20^th included a communion service, a meeting with Dr. William Shaules, the facilitator for the Year 1 Candidacy class, and a two and a half hour discussion on Mental Illness (MI) led by Ed Vidaurri, a District Chief for the LA County Department of Mental Health (LACDMH).

Before the presentation, Ed asked us to discuss with a nearby classmate something that we would like to see happen around mental health in our Parish or a question about mental health. From this discussion Ed asked what questions we had. There were questions ranging from education and resources to parish involvement and legal implications. Ed did his best to answer the questions while providing additional information as well.

In terms of facts, here are a few: 75% of those who are homeless have some type of mental illness. 1 in 4 has a severe or serious MI. (The next time you are at Mass, imagine two of every person in each pew has a MI.) Those with a serious MI live 5 – 10 years less than those without one.

The LACDMH provides grants of $100,000 on an annual basis to individuals or organizations (even church communities) who want to try to develop some type of program to assist a group who has an MI. Proposals are submitted and the winner(s) are selected based on the amount of funds available for that year.

There are a number of places on the web for information. One such place in the DMH website: Http://dmh.lacounty.gov . We are in region 3 and there are individuals who will provide numerous types of education to any parish at no charge. Each area has a Service Area Advisory Committee (SAAC) that meets on a monthly basis to discuss MI issues and needs specific to our region.

Mental Illness is considered the last leprosy (in the 70’s it was cancer). We now know that most cancers were curable with early detection and that it wasn’t contagious, Mental Health is exactly the same. If the community is educated about MI, it will not treat people with a MI as if they were lepers. There is a great deal a community might do to help. Perhaps a Ministry made up of volunteers with a medical, substance abuse or mental health counseling background. Ed explained how a group of lay (no medical background) volunteers formed a ministry to help the homeless around their parish, they got to know those who were in the area, first offering assistance with basic necessities, sock, shoes, a bag lunch, water, they basics we all have at our disposal. The next step was to get them off the streets. They would offer one of them a place to live, supported by their parish. Seems like an easy task, but after years of living on the streets it was difficult to assimilate back into society. Subsequently, take care of their health issues, beginning with a diagnosis. Most homeless suffer from dehydration; they have a wariness of others and find it difficult to trust. While these volunteers work diligently to help the homeless and those with Mental Illnesses, it takes time and patience.

Nothing happens overnight, but with care and understanding, the loving grace that God offers each of us so freely, we all have an opportunity to reach out to that homeless person who is just a brief figure on the street, on the freeway off ramp, at the gas station. Next time you see a person who is different, standing at a street corner or in a parking lot, first offer up a smile, perhaps a kind word, a meal so that they have something to eat, at least for today. Most of us are afraid of the homeless, those who talk to themselves, who are dirty, ragged, who smell. They take us out of our comfort zone and we are repelled by the thought of their lives. We must look past the dirt and grime and smell, to see God’s child under that exterior.

We are not sure what impact three hours of training on Mental Illness can have on 100 potential diaconate couples and their facilitators. We know that we will now look at someone who has a Mental Illness as a member of our community. Not to be excluded, but included. That’s a start.

We have only four classes remaining this year. Two in Mission Hills, one in La Puente and our last class will be held at Valyermo (aka St. Andrew’s Abby) in the high desert near Palmdale.

We look forward to no longer being Aspirants, but being accepted as a Candidate Couple in Candidacy Year I.

Our latest class was March 16^that the Immaculate Community Center in Glendale. After the usual class format we had reports from the from the Religious Education Congress and prayed the Stations of the Cross.

We like the Immaculate Community Center because we have our class in the gym. Most people do not think of a gym as a great place for a class, let alone for the Stations of the Cross, but it worked well! The gym allows you to configure the space as you please.

We used John Paul II’s “Biblical Way of the Cross”. Each couple was told to place their chairs somewhere in the gym.

Yvonne, one of our Deacon Couple facilitators, was in the center of the gym, she said the first and last station and played music between every station. Each couple, in turn, would lead one station, each taking either the Leader role or the Lector role. A reflection was then provided after the reading, with the Leader/Lector reflecting on how the station and the Gospel reading affected them. The reflections were heartfelt and inspirational, with each person placing themselves at the station and reflecting on how the Gospel touched their heart, mind, and spirit. What a beautiful experience.

So, “Where two or three are gathered, there I am in your midst”. Even a gym, on a Saturday afternoon can provide a very holy experience of prayer.

Our next class will be on March 23 at Deacon Craig & Anne Marie Siegman’s Parish St. Margaret Mary in Lomita. This class will include a Seder Meal.

Our last formation class was March 2^nd at the Alemany High School in Mission Hills. After the regular schedule we had discussion regarding what we are to bring to the Seder Meal on March 23 at St. Margaret Mary in Lomita, Deacon Craig & Anne Marie Siegman’s Parish. We then learned the second part of the Liturgy of the Hours which included being able to add the prayers for feast days as well as other holy days. We concluded with the discussion of our homework assignment “Reading the Old Testament”.

Our classmates who are originally from American Samoa, presented today’s prayer service with a theme of forgiveness, using the last seven words of Jesus as the scriptural focus. As we are now required, our classmate provided their thoughts on the topic in a very powerful reflection. In order to forgive, we must also try to forget after we forgive. To tell someone that we have forgiven them and hold the recollection of what happened deep in one’s

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memory is not the act of forgiveness. When an individual apologizes, even though the one they hurt may have forgiven, they might not let the memory fade. When we forgive or are forgiven, we must try to let our remembrance of what happened fade and move forward in our lives, or we have not let the gift of forgiveness take place.

We would like to share our impressions of the afternoon Prayer Service and what was referred to as a “Soaking” Prayer.

Shortly after we started the year, each couple was assigned a date to conduct a prayer service. We thought that after the initial working out of the technical aspects, the prayer services would reach a peak and then level off. If that is the case, then we haven’t reached the peak yet. Let us tell you about it.

This week’s prayer service focused on “the other A: adoption”. One of the couples in our class has adopted two children from Russia. They provided statistics that if 6% of Catholics would adopt one child that is currently in the adoption system, there would no longer be a need for orphanages.

This prayer was unique because one of the Aspirancy couples conducting the service played the opening song on the guitar. They also used a power-point presentation with photos of their own adoptions as well as photos of their family members who have adopted children too.

The intention of the service was to both provide information and pray for children who are without parents. It also highlighted an alternative to abortion, emphasizing that all children are a gift from God, and that God chooses the family where the child will be loved and cherished.

It was a very powerful, heartfelt service!

The second thing that we would like to share with you is the “soaking prayer”. People put themselves in an attitude of stillness, focusing on Jesus and open to the Holy Spirit. We have a classmate who has been having ongoing medical problems. We asked that person to come forward and to sit in a chair. Everyone present then gathered around and either placed their hands on the seated person or on someone who was touching the malade. We then prayed spontaneously for the healing of our classmate, asking the Lord to send down his healing Spirit, and heal body, mind and spirit. This too, was a powerful moment, the strength and power of help flowed through us all, a true gift from our Savior.

On February 2, 2013 we attended our most recent class at the Incarnation Community Center in Glendale. The week prior we attended a powerful Marriage Encounter Weekend held in Encino at the Holy Spirit Retreat Center.

We want to blog on the call of couples who enter the diaconate formation and why some couples may leave before completing the program. In January our class discussed the departure a couple who had been on the diaconate journey with us. It is important to talk about and understand the reasons a couple may chose to leave.

When you begin the process you are told that at any time you are able to choose to leave the program. The reason might be family obligations, career, or other personal reasons. Occasionally, a couple may discover that they are not being called to the diaconate, or at least not at this particular time. The couple is able to choose to leave permanently or temporarily depending on the situation.

In turn a couple may be asked to leave the program by the formation staff. From the time of the initial information meeting until the night before ordination, the formation staff, after much thought, discussion, and prayer, may feel it’s in the best interest of all to ask a couple to leave the program. This could be for a variety of reasons including class participation (homework, discussion and quiz results), attendance, spousal participation or other activities deemed not fitting for a deacon couple.

Even though the previous week’s Marriage Encounter weekend helped us to grow closer as a couple and a group, the departure of our classmates had a definite impact on all of us. It brought home the realization that this is a journey that may or may not end in ordination. That during this formation period one or more of our classmate couples may leave the program. We pray that each couple on this journey is willing to accept what God has in store for them. Please pray for us and for them too.

The January 5^th Diaconate Formation Class was again held at the Alamany High School, Mission Hills. This class followed the usual format of Spiritual Direction, Morning Prayer from the Divine Office, a quiz, and lunch. After lunch there was a prayer service, class instruction, concluding with Psalms written by our fellow class participants.

We thought we might explain how the quizzes are used as part of the diaconate process.

There are a number of quizzes given each of the five years of formation, two of which take place in the Aspirancy year. At the end of the year, as part of the end of year interview, we will be asked questions from the quizzes given throughout that year.

The quiz we just took focused on the Old Testament, Paying Attention to God, The Dogmatic Constitution on Divine Revelation, Together in Prayer and 101 Questions on the Bible. All of these have been required reading for us over the past 90 days.

As one approaches the end of their final year of formation, there will be an interview which will include questions from all the quizzes given during formation. We estimate that there will be about 100 questions covering all the information presented over the past five years from which the final questions will be selected.

Update on the December blog post: Over 100 children attended Sore Feet Saviors Annual Christmas Party, which we wrote about last month, as well as their parents and caregivers. The children were overjoyed to now have a warm place to sleep and shoes that fit.

Our next class will be held on January 19^th in Mission Hills, followed by a Marriage Encounter Weekend January 25-27 (held in Encino), and then another class on February 2^nd , at Incarnation Parish in Glendale.

I attended the January 19 diaconate formation class by myself this month as Candy was needed at the Get on the Bus (GOTB) information meeting held on the same day. The meeting was at Alamany High School in Mission Hills and we followed the usual format of Spiritual Direction, Morning Prayer from the Divine Office, book reports (on a spiritual book of our choice) before lunch. Afternoon session was a prayer service, class instruction, and additional book reports.

I’d like to share what we’ve been focusing on in Spiritual Direction; especially the 19^th Annotation of St. Ignatius of Loyola. We began the Ignatian exercises as part of our retreat in August of last year and will continue the daily practice of the 19^th annotation through May. We dedicate up to an hour each day to this form of prayer.

The foundation of this prayer is to use your imagination as part of the prayer. We are given a number of scripture passages to read each day between classes. The selected scripture is read, maybe a few times, to get an understanding of the passage. You may even look up the passages in your Bible prior to and after the assigned passage. Once you have a good understanding of the premise of the passage, you imagine yourself at the time and place where the passage took place.

If you were to look at this Sunday’s Gospel, you would imagine yourself at the marriage feast at Cana. You then imagine that you are one of those attending the wedding. You could be the bride or groom, one of their parents, a guest, a servant, Mary, Jesus or one of His disciples. You see the feast in progress. You hear all of the sounds. You smell all of the scents. You feel the emotions of those present.

As the scene progresses, you are able to hear what is happening. Each word, each intonation, and see the face of the person speaking. How would you react and feel if you were one of the guests at the wedding? Perhaps you are the mother of the groom and a friend of Mary. Maybe you discuss the shortage of wine with her and then watch as the miracle occurs.

This method of prayer allows a familiarity with the scene beyond the text; somehow the details you fill in with your imagination make it a genuine and personal experience.

When this method of prayer was first presented to us, we were unsure how it would affect our prayer life. But, as we began to employ this form of prayer, we were astonished by power it has. We are able to experience what the scriptures describe. This practice offers you a whole new dimension in understanding scripture.

The January 5^th Diaconate Formation Class was again held at the Alemany High School, Mission Hills. This class followed the usual format of Spiritual Direction, Morning Prayer from the Divine Office, a quiz, and lunch. After lunch there was a prayer service, class instruction, concluding with Psalms written by our fellow class participants.

We thought we might explain how the quizzes are used as part of the diaconate process.

On November 17, 2012, we attended our latest diaconate formation class. This class was held at the Church of the Incarnation in Glendale. This class followed the usual format of; Spiritual Direction, Morning Prayer from the Divine Office, class instruction, and lunch. After lunch there is; a prayer service, class instruction, and Evening Prayer from the Divine Office.

Our involvement in the St. Ignatius 19^th annotation continues to be deeply meaningful to us, the next two weeks we will be focusing on our past personal sin and then on God’s merciful love.

We had Morning Prayer from the Divine Office, led by our classmates. We then had a Thanksgiving reflection led by Deacon Chris and his wife Yvonne. We shared our different family traditions, how with time our traditions have changed and with the changes in our families we adapt to our new traditions as well as keeping the traditions of years past alive.

We once again shared a wonderful lunch; the offerings included many hearty dishes which were piping hot, perfect for the day, with our classmates from both the English and Spanish classes. Since it was a rainy day we ate indoors gathered in the dining room, which gives us another opportunity to share our meal and a spirited conversation. The noise level was high.

After lunch we had our second prayer service presented by another of our classmate couples. This service focused on Thanksgiving and what we were thankful for. As each couple came forward and read what they were thankful for, placed the paper listing their thankful items into a cornucopia, and picking up a small stone. The stone was to be carried with each of us to remind us of the things that we were all thankful for. We will present our prayer service during our next class; please keep us in your prayers that the Holy Spirit continues to inspire us.

We broke into six groups and each group would present one chapter from “Paying Attention to God”. The different groups developed the top 4 bullet points of the 6 chapters that were the focus point in each chapter. The results were collected and Candy will transcribe them from the “large” post-its to an e-file.

The next activity was to read some of the psalms that we wrote. Since there are twenty-six, it was decided to read a third of them at each of the next three classes. Eight were read, including Jay’s on the loss of a loved one.

We completed the day with our classmates leading us in Evening Prayer.

One of the lead Spiritual Directors, Sr. Barbara, had fallen the previous week and was having surgery at the same time we were having class. We ask that she be remembered in your prayers

Hi all,

As we continue our journey, things are coming together. Our abilities to understand the materials and participate in the discussion is getting better. We will be leading the prayer service on December 3^rd with a working title of “The Gift of Prayer” focusing on the first Sunday of Advent.

Below is our summary of Saturday’s class. Comments are always welcome!

On October 20, 2012, we attended our latest class, happy to see our classmates again. The morning was spent in Spiritual Direction, as usual. The first two hours were spent in opening prayer, continued learning about St. Ignatius’ 19^th annotation, and meeting with our Spiritual Director. We continue to be savor this time.

After Spiritual Direction, we started the class portion of the day. This portion was led by Deacon Chris and his wife Yvonne. We began with “Morning Prayer” [a part of the Divine Office] which was conducted by fellow aspirants. Having learned the Divine Office during the last class, it went very well.

An open discussion about the Vatican II document on Divine Revelation, also reviewing the homework which was submitted during the last session. This discussion was intertwined with being honest during prayer. Do we see God’s revelation to us if we are not being honest about ourselves when we pray? God continues to be revealed to us each day, if we are not honest in our prayer, we may miss it.

Lunch was great. Both the English and Spanish-speaking Aspirants braved the drizzle and ate together outside. We shared great food, drink and dessert. Bringing the two classes together, sharing all aspects of the journey, the conversations were spirited and heartfelt.

The work on reading the Old Testament was continued after lunch. The first five books of the Bible were discussed including the authorship of each book and the history and archaeology of the Middle East. A lively discussion ensued about the difference between ” oral tradition” and “written scripture” and how the two affected the workings of the early books of the Bible.

We concluded the day with Evening Prayer or Vespers which we led along with two other aspirants. Future classes will end with a prayer services prepared by each Aspirancy couple. This will be done for most of the remaining classes.

This class was much more interactive than previous classes. When the class concluded, we felt less tired than in the past. The amount of information provided was done at a more manageable pace.

We continue our journey with our classmates, our Instructors and Spiritual Directors, our friends, the community of Holy Family, and each other.

Hi All,

As we continue our journey, things are coming together. Our ability to understand the materials and participate in the discussion is getting better. We will be leading the prayer service on December 3^rd with a working title of “The Gift of Prayer” focusing on the first Sunday of Advent. Below is our summary of Saturday’s class.
Comments are always welcome!

On October 20, 2012, we attended our latest class. We were happy to see our classmates again.

The morning was spent in Spiritual Direction as usual. The first two hours are spent in opening prayer, continued learning about the 19^th annotation, and meeting with our Spiritual Director. We continue to savor this time.

After Spiritual Direction, we started the class portion of the day. This portion was led by Deacon Chris and his wife Yvonne. We began with Morning Prayer (the Divine Office) conducted by fellow aspirants. Having learned the Divine Office during the last class, it went very well.

Lunch was great. Both the English and Spanish Aspirants braved the drizzle and ate together outside. We shared great food, drink and dessert. Bringing the two classes, English and Spanish together, sharing all aspects of the journey, the conversations were spirited and heartfelt.

The work on reading the Old Testament was continued after lunch. The first five books of the Bible were discussed included those who are attributed with its writing. The history and the archaeology of the Middle East were also included, with a lively discussion about the difference between Tradition and written scripture and how the two affected the workings of the early books of the Bible.

This class was much more interactive than previous classes. When the class concluded, we felt less tired than in the past. The amount of information provided was done at a more manageable pace.

We continue our journey with our classmates, our Instructors and Spiritual Directors, our friends, the community of Holy Family, and each other.

The morning was spent in Spiritual Direction. Since we had a retreat two weeks ago, it had been a month since we had met with our Spiritual Directors. It was for this reason that the morning Spiritual Direction session seemed to take more time than expected.

After Spiritual Direction, we started the class portion of the day. This portion was led by Deacon Chris and his wife Yvonne. We began with a prayer service focusing on how God is closer than we think.

We discussed the summer assignments. Although most of us had done rather well on what we learned, we seemed to be having difficulties on how we were nourished. We were reminded that in this portion of the homework, it was to be about “me”. How was I fed by the materials that were read? Like manna in the desert.

We discussed difference type of Psalms that there were (Praise and Lamentations) as well as assignments for the next class. It was then time to share our potluck lunch with each other.

The focus of the afternoon class was to learn how to pray the Divine Office in the manner of a Deacon. A Deacon is required to pray Morning Prayer and Evening Prayer. Once the instruction was completed by Deacon Craig, we went through Evening Prayer as a class. It was not bad considering that it was the first time that most of us had done it.

Next we look at a reading assignment. Not one of the many books for class, but rather something that might feed our spirit. Many examples were given and the choice was left up to us.

We also discussed our growth contract. This contract consists of two or three areas that we are going to work on improving between December and June. Dates and times for discussing our contracts with Deacon Chris and Yvonne were selected.

The class was concluded with us trying to pray Morning Prayer as a class. The various roles of Presider, Psalm Leader, Reader, and Another Person were assigned earlier in the day. So we prayed and ended our day.

Future class time will now begin with Morning Prayer from the Divine Office and end with either Evening Prayer or a Prayer Service written by one of the couples.

These days are filled with much prayer and learning. At the end of the day you can be very tired from your experiences. A good tired. A tired that you might experience from a good workout or completing a difficult mental task.

It has been a while since we were in school. The muscle between our ears has not been used in this manner in a long time.

We continue our journey with our classmates, our Instructors and Spiritual Directors, our friends, the community of Holy Family, and each other.

Candy and Jay Krueger attended their third session for the Archdiocese Diaconate Aspirancy year. This session was a day long retreat and included all 103 couples who are a part of the five-year program. This was also the first time there were both English and Spanish classes for all five years.

The session opened with all classes praying the Liturgy of the Hours together. The Liturgy of the Hours was celebrated in English and Spanish, offering all those in attendance to worship our Heavenly Father in voice and song. It was followed by a brief discussion by Deacon Craig (head of the Diaconate program) about looking at what we are called to do, to discern the true calling of God within our lives and place that calling into action.

The remainder of the day was conducted by Sister Joan Herehan, CSJ, and included discussions on discernment and prayer. She also pointed out that God ordinarily acts in ordinary ways.

We all have personal compasses, to the East is the rising sun, the new beginning in our lives that call us to embrace a different direction. To the West is the setting of the sun, letting go of a belief, an attitude or situation that needs to be left behind. To the North a guiding light, those who guide us in nurturing and sustaining way, a dear friend that helps us through a difficult time. To the south a sunny exposure, marking our lively energy, our imagination and spontaneity that are needed to nurture ourselves. We were asked to diagram our own personal compass and write down the directions of our lives and then move into the circle and an image of an unconditional yes in our lives. There was then time to reflect and pray with our personal life compass.

We then enjoyed a community pot luck shared by all the Diaconate Classes, facilitators, Guest Speakers and leaders. With the Spirit of Fellowship the hour and a half passed all too quickly, the bounty of food and the joyful conversations was a true blessing. Our lunch was drawn to a close with the song Open my Ears Lord, which brought us back to a prayerful state.

The afternoon Session was centered on Discernment, how to define, gather, use the imagination, brainstorm possibilities and paying attention. There comes times in our lives when we must face the possibility of change. With discernment we are able to focus on the possibilities within ourselves to face those changes. We focus on three main points. To be honest with ourselves, to trust others and ask for help, to be in constant, persistent prayer, having the faith that God will guide us on the path which will lead us on His path. The session was closed with a prayer by Thomas Merton, the Prayer of Discernment, “You will lead me by the right road, though I may know nothing about it.”

During our lunch break our group discussed how we would like to visit the home parishes of each of our classmates, which would occur over the next five years. The entire group welcomed this with exuberance and joy. With the diversity of our class as well as the entire program, we see God’s guiding hand on our path to richer discernment.

After over a year in the application process Candy and Jay Krueger received a letter from Deacon Craig, who is in charge of Diaconate formation for the Archdiocese of Los Angeles, on the eve of Pentecost (May 26^th of this year), stating that they had been accepted into the program. The program is approximately 100 days in duration spread out over 5 years.

On June 3^rd, we had our first meeting, received the syllabus and summer reading and homework assignments. It was the first time we had met. There were 12 couples (with an additional couple added later) in the English program and 8 couples in the Spanish program. There are two other couples in the English program that are from parishes without a Deacon. We will be sharing our ideas about catechesis in this area.

Summer came and went and we would get together for a three-day silent retreat at the Mary and Joseph retreat center in Rancho Palos Verdes the last weekend in August. We were able to meet with six other couples prior to the start of the retreat for dinner. A great time was had by all! The majority of the retreat was silent and we learned about how to use various aspects of the Ignatian Annotation’s for prayer. We did have two meals during which we could talk. Those meals were over an hour as we got to know our classmates. The silent meals came and went in under 15 minutes. It was a wonderful, prayerful weekend. Though we have been on many retreats, this was the first one we had been on together.

We attended our first class on September 8^th. The day consisted on 2 hours of spiritual direction. This entailed individual spiritual direction, classwork, and group faith sharing. Once this was completed, Deacon Chris arrived and took over. He and his wife Yvonne are from American Martyrs Catholic Church in Manhattan Beach and will be our primary instructors for this year.

We were each assigned and individual spiritual director from the Loyola Institute for Spiritually. Also in attendance were Sister Barbara, Brother Charlie and Agnes who were also from the Institute and conducted out retreat in August. As part of our first year we will complete the 19^th Annotation. This involves reading specific scripture passages and praying over it for up to an hour a day. For us, this will continue through June of next year.

After Spiritual Direction, we started our class. We reviewed the class roster to make sure everything was correct, received pictures and names of all of the classes. There are currently 103 couples in various stages of formation in the Diaconate. From the 18 who may be ordained in June of 2013 to the 21 who just started (i.e. us).

We received a revised syllabus and elected class leaders who are responsible for communication to the class, coordinating the pot-lucks for each class, and passing out the assorted material. We were selected as the class leaders.

We reviewed some of our summer homework including an article about what the Diaconate is, a book on Catholic Time Management, and questions on the Bible.

We learned how to conduct a prayer service and were assigned to conduct a prayer service once during this formation year.

Diaconate formation for the Archdiocese of Los Angeles, on the eve of Pentecost (May 26^th of this year), stating that they had been accepted into the program. The program is approximately 100 days in duration spread out over 5 years.

We reviewed some of our summer homework including an article about what the Diaconate is, a book on Catholic Time Management, and questions on the Bible.

We learned how to conduct a prayer service and were assigned to conduct a prayer service once during this formation year.

Our next class will be on September 22 and will be an all class retreat.

This day went by fast! Candy said that it was Baptism by fire hose!

So, is it worth it? Absolutely!

So, will we make it through the five years and become a Deacon Couple? We don’t know where God will lead us. But, this is our current path.

As with the application process, we concluded that even if we were not accepted into the program, what we learned about our relationship with God and each other made it worth it. The same is true with Diaconate formation. As was said by Deacon Chris, “It is not the destination (i.e. ordination), but rather the journey.” We agree!

Please remember the 97 couples who are in Diaconate formation for the Archdiocese of Los Angeles in your prayers.

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